Nia Fia
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"The function and duty of a quality human being is the sincere and honest development of one's potential."
~ Bruce Lee

Your DISC personality test report

 (from  7/31/2011

Your specific distribution of scores on the DISC personality test is an indication of your unique personality. You can think of this as your DISC Personality 'DNA'. In the pie chart below you see your distribution of scores.

The highest percentage is likely to be your most dominant personality factor, the second highest your next most dominant personality factor and so on. As such for you the DISC factors are ordered as: Influence, Dominance, Steadiness and Compliance.

DISC personality test profile

Your DISC personality type

Your unique sequence of scores characterizes you in a specific way. The positive impact you are likely to make on people is:

You are socially oriented. You have a strong self-motivation to get to know people in all walks of life and to nurture those relationships.
You have a natural enthusiasm for all types of ideas and projects - your own and other people's.
People are likely to describe you as gregarious, persuasive and optimistic.



Musical Preferences

from  (as of 3/11/12)



Parenting Style

from to  (as of 3/11/12)



my personality pattern

I'm definitely heavy on the southwest front...



What does all this mean???


Discover the top 10 personality traits that uniquely describe you:

You come up with a lot of ideas; if one doesn't work out, there's always another waiting in the wings. You often have interesting solutions to difficult problems. You're practically a one-person brainstorming session.

You are less interested changing the world than in dealing with things as they are. Unlike those who spend all their time trying to solve problems, you prefer to zero in on things that work and stick with them.


You appreciate art, beauty, and design; you know that they are not superficial but absolutely crucial to living the good life. You have good taste, and you're proud of it. Those with a high score on the "aesthetic" trait are often employed in literary or artistic professions, enjoy domestic activities — doing things around the house — and are enthusiastic about the arts, reading, and travel.

You don't think it's pretentious to be moved by art and beauty. You're not one of those who believe it doesn't matter what something looks like as long as it does its job.


You are constantly coming up with new ideas. For you, the world as it exists is just a jumping-off place; what's going on inside your mind is often more interesting than what's going on outside.

You don't feel that the road to success is to be a realist and stick to the program; you never stop yourself from coming up with new ideas or telling the world what you're thinking about.


You strive to master everything you undertake. You tend to learn quickly and do not shy away from challenges.

You are not a "que sera sera" type of person, nor do you go easy on yourself when attempting to master a new skill or get a job done.


You are thoughtful, rational, and comfortable in the world of ideas. People find you interesting to talk to. You're the living embodiment of the saying "You learn something new every day." In general, those with a high score on the "intellectual" trait are employed in such fields as teaching and research, and are enthusiastic about reading, foreign films, and classical music.

You do not avoid abstract conversation, experimenting with new ideas, or studying new things. It bores you to stick to the straight and narrow of what you already know.


You like to get to the bottom of things. You're not content knowing what someone did; you want to know why they did it.

You don't simply take things as they are and move on; you're not content skimming along on the surface; you don't feel you're wasting time by digging for the meaning of things.


You would rather hang out with others than spend time alone, and you'd far rather be doing something with your friends than just sitting around. You're happy in a crowded room, club, stadium, or auditorium.

You're not a private person who is ill at ease in a group; you don't view excessive socializing as a waste of time.


You're comfortable expressing yourself in words and actions, with no self-censorship. You believe that if someone doesn't like what they see it's not your problem, but theirs. A high score on the "accessible" trait suggests that you have a lot of friends, socialize often, and enjoy rap/hip-hop music.

You don't see the need to keep your thoughts to yourself, or to have a zone of privacy that encompasses only yourself and a small circle of friends and relatives.


You have a genuine interest in other people. You're a natural host, and are always thinking about how you can increase the happiness of those around you. When friends have problems or are in trouble, you're usually the first person they turn to for aid and comfort. Scoring high on the "warm" trait suggests that you are among those who enjoy domestic activities — doing things around the house — and are enthusiastic about charitable work, helping others, and making the world a better place.

You don't always say exactly what you're thinking; you don't like the idea of causing anyone pain because of your criticism.


You are in touch with your own feelings, which helps put you in touch with the feelings of others.

You don't buy the logic that your happiness comes ahead of everyone else's because unless you're happy you're incapable of making anyone else happy.



How Conscientious Am I?

from  (as of 5/22/12) 

 The personality trait of Conscientiousness is manifested in many ways in day-to-day life. For example, conscientious people tend to be better organized, and arrive on time to their daily activities. They also are better at following the rules, avoiding risks, and can stop themselves from indulging too much. 

The importance of being conscientiousness becomes apparent when considering the long-term long-term implications of conscientious behavior. Conscientious people tend to live longer, have better relationships, are healthier, and are better workers.




Well, I now know what I need to work on... 


Read more about conscientiousness from Dr. Brent W. Roberts



My Relationship Preferences

 From (as of 5/23/12)




Compared to the Average Person:
  • You want to spend high amounts of time together in your close relationships.
  • You need about average levels of communication in order to feel close to others.
  • You require low intimacy in your close relationships, which means that you want to share low amounts of personal information.
  • Your desire for people to be there to support you when you need them is about average.
  • In order for you to feel close to others, you require very low levels ofemotional connection, which means it's of very low importance to you that other people like you, feel happy thinking about you, and miss you when you're not around.
  • When trying to feel close to others, you need low amounts ofaffection, which includes others finding ways to show you they love you.




"Secure individuals have low anxiety and avoidance. For the most part, they form close, comfortable relationships."

Sanguine Positive

from ( as of 4/13/2012)


Hey! This test says I'm:


  • slightly irrational
  • very sanguine
  • totally positive 



Performance Profile

 From  (as of 5/23/12)



Your task performance
You completed the activities 96% correctly. This puts you in the 78th percentile of scores. That means you performed better than 78% of people who have also taken this assessment online. That's very high performance.

Why did you perform this way?
Research has identified several personal characteristics that can affect how individuals perform on various tasks.

Conscientiousness is a personality trait. Conscientious people are responsible, organized, hard-working, take their duties seriously, and show up to appointments on time. When conscientious people care about a task they're working on, they tend to perform very well. Because it's a personality trait, conscientious people behave conscientiously somewhat naturally.

Achievement motivation is a individual's desire to perform well on tasks and to get ahead. When people who are motivated to achieve are given opportunities to compete, they really try to do well and outperform other people. Achievement motivation is not a personality trait, but rather a motive.

The results of your personality tests suggest that you are conscientious and motivated to achieve
You scored in the 41st percentile of conscientiousness. That means you are more conscientious than 41% of people who have taken this assessment. You scored in the 44th percentile of achievement motivation. That means that you are more motivated to achieve than 44% of people who've also taken this assessment.

It's no wonder that you performed well on the tasks, given that you are both conscientious and motivated to achieve. Your personality traits and your motives are aligned. You have a personality that predisposes you to working hard, and you are driven to achieve. 


a bit Narcissistic, anyone?



According to Dr. Drew, I'm apparently above average in narcissism... scoring a:



 So.... what does this mean?



1. an exceptional interest in or admiration for oneself, esp one's physical appearance
2. sexual satisfaction derived from contemplation of one's own physical or mental endowments

1.  self-centeredness, smugness, egocentrism. 

BFI (Big Five Inventory)



BFI (Big Five Inventory)
Personality Test Results

Generously placed in the public domain by test author Oliver P. John, Ph.D, U.C. Berkeley
This Internet BFI report designed by William A. McConochie, PhD., Testmaster, Inc.

About The Report

The 'BIG FIVE' personality traits are the ones which underlie most others. These traits are about 50% inherited and 50% learned, and stay fairly stable from age 30 on. Higher scores on CONSCIENTIOUSNESS are associated with better school grades. Low scores on AGREEABLENESS may be associated with delinquency in teens and similar problems in adults. Higher scores on all scales are often associated with enjoying employment responsibilities and duties. Norms used for scoring include over 70,000 Americans ages 15-65 (S.D. Gosling & J. Potter, U.Tex., Austin) and several hundred teenagers, ages 12-17. Each person's scores are based on an appropriate gender and age group. Scores can be less than zero, e.g., -16, because they are standard (T) scores (mean of 50, standard deviation of 28). Percentiles are approximate.

 Personal Data
Date:   10/5/2011
Name:   Nia Fia
Age:   36
Gender:   Female
 Personality Traits
Score Level:    Low Average High
Percentile Level:    Less Than 30 31 to 59 60 and Above
Trait Name T-Score Percentile Score      
Conscientiousness  38  Less than 60   
Agreeableness  52  Less than 60   
Extroversion  70  Greater than 60   
Openness  90  Greater than 60   
Emotional Stress Tolerance  73  Greater than 60   




big 5


(from  7/31/2011


1. Introduction

1.1 Report

This report consists of four sections. The first section briefly explains the theoretical background of the test. Your personality profile is discussed in the second section based on your scores for the five personality traits of the Big Five theory. In the third section, whether combinations of the five personality traits result in additional key personality traits is reviewed. The last section explains the meaning of the test and how the results can be interpreted or used.

1.2 Theoretical background

The list of all of the personality traits that can be measured with questionnaires is very long. Virtually effortlessly, more than fifty traits can be found that have been researched by test developers and psychologists. All of these traits, however, are derived from five main personality traits. This test refers to these five traits as Emotional stability, Extraversion, Conscientiousness, Agreeableness and Openness. Professional literature also refers to these as the Big Five. These are the five traits that can be found in numerous personality tests. Some personality tests consist of six, seven or even more personality traits. In these tests, one of the five main traits is often subdivided. As you read the results of your test, you will understand exactly what each personality trait stands for.

To one extent or another, all of the traits listed above affect the way people deal with or respond to others. High, low or average scores on personality traits all have their own advantages and disadvantages depending on the situation or the people involved in the interaction. An accommodating person, for example, will be liked by many people. By contrast, a critical person will not be liked very well by some people. However, the critical individual will not be easily brushed aside.

Tests in which the Big Five personality traits are measured provide insight into your primary personality traits in relation to other relevant people. This is rather essential. Take a person's height, for example. With a height of six feet, the average Western European or American person will seem like a giant in Japan. The same types of phenomena also affect the personality. The extent of your Extraversion, for example, is another relative score: you are an extravert to a certain extent in comparison to others. Sadly, many free tests are available on the Internet that do not provide results based on a comparison between you and the right reference group. The person who made up the test has decided what is considered a high or a low score: developing a standard is time consuming and expensive. This personality test provides goog insight into your personality, particularly in relation to the average Western person.

2. Introduction to your scores

Your personality is described based on five personality traits: Emotional stability, Extraversion, Conscientiousness, Agreeableness and Openness. Each personality trait has two extremes. The meaning of the two extremes is explained to the left and right of the scale with your score. If your score is more to the left on the scale, the words on the left apply more to you. If your score is more to the right, the words on the right are more applicable. If your score is in the middle, the words on both sides apply to some degree. Scores to the left of the middle are called low or below-average scores. Scores to the right of the middle are above-average or high. An average score means that your score for that particular personality trait is generally the same as the average for the reference group. Statistical analysis is used to calculate the extent to which your scores differ from the average score. Qualifications like low, below-average, average or high are not results that can be considered good or poor. Some situations call for a certain trait while the same trait is not appreciated in other situations. A person who is usually calm and collected will generally suffer little from stress. Others may consider that person to be unenthusiastic or unsympathetic.

Your scores are calculated in relation to the adult Western population. Generally, a distinction is made between people who have taken the test to gain more personal insight and those who have done it for an assessment or job interview. In general, people who do a test to gain personal insight are more critical of themselves than those doing it for an assessment or job interview. It is important to compare scores with the correct reference group as this will affect your results. You are considered to have taken this test to gain more insight into your personality. Your scores were therefore determined based on a reference group of people who completed the test for the same reason.

2.1 'Emotional stability'

This personality trait pertains to the extent to which a person is sensitive to stimuli in the environment and needs to have certainty and stability.

Your score on this trait is average. This means that you are normally relatively calm. Your emotional response primarily depends on the situation. You only feel stressed or out of balance when put under pressure or forced to deal with setbacks. It is not very difficult to get you riled, and in general you may feel bad about losing, but this does not keep you awake at night. It is relatively easy for you to get past feelings, such as shame. You certainly have your doubts and worries, but these do not dominate your thinking. Most of the time you can think rationally and put emotions into their proper perspective.

2.2 'Extraversion'

This personality trait pertains to the need for social stimuli. It sketches the extent to which a person goes looking for action and others, for the place where things are happening, or tends to avoid disturbances.

Your score on this trait is average. You are equally fond of having fun with others and being alone. In general, you are energetic but not overenthusiastic. You like your privacy but also do well in groups. At parties or in a group, you do not feel a need for attention. If asked or if there is a reason to do so, you will voice your opinion. You do not feel the need to be busy all the time, but you are also not one to simply relax. You feel comfortable with people who are not afraid to take the initiative when the situation arises. But you can also deal with people who are more introverted or who crave attention. You enjoy contact with others, but this is not essential. You can appear to be both hesitant and spontaneous. In principle, an average score on this scale makes you open to both those who are reserved and extroverts.

2.3 'Conscientiousness'

This personality trait pertains to purposefulness. It reflects the extent to which a person is focused, exact and orderly, or flexible instead.

Your score on this trait is low. You are capable of taking whatever life brings. Sometimes you seem to be careless. You can be relaxed and spontaneous. However, you are sometimes less organized than others as a result. You may tend to avoid obligations. Your actions are sometimes more intuitive: based on feelings rather than on what has been agreed or is considered appropriate. As a result, sometimes you may appear to be somewhat disorganized and therefore easily distracted. Thus sometimes you need to be careful of forgetting things or losing understanding of the big picture. Specific others will sometimes even consider you to be lazy or uncaring. However, this also means that you can be flexible. In general, you prefer to be with people who take life as it comes. You generally have more difficulty dealing with people who are very cautious, exact or somewhat prudent. You do not always feel at ease in a more structured, extremely orderly environment.

2.4 'Agreeableness'

This personality trait pertains to attentiveness and people mindedness. It indicates the extent to which a person is interested in other people, and how affable the person is. A lower score points to a more business-like and functional approach.

Your score on this trait is just below average. You can be very friendly but also relatively direct. In general, you are interested in people and their motives, but can also be business-like. When you do things, you are guided by rationale on the one hand and the circumstances on the other. This means that you can take the feelings of others into account, but can also be relatively direct and less diplomatic. As a result, people will consider you to be both friendly and direct. In other words: a person who is not afraid to say what needs saying, but who is also able to do so in a friendly manner. You get along well with people who are nice but also capable of standing up for themselves. As long as they are not arrogant or individualistic.

2.5 'Openess'

This personality trait pertains to originality and intellect. It is related to the extent to which a person searches for new insights, or has a more practical, routine-like attitude.

Your score on this trait is just above average. Part of you is practical. Why make things difficult? But every now and then, with due cause, you will break away from routines or fixed patterns and be open to new ideas, or want to discuss things. You do like challenges and enjoy exchanging views at time. However, finding new ideas and experiences does not always have central focus in your life. In general, you focus on the here and now, but are willing to try something new if necessary or intriguing. Thus your approach is pragmatic. Many people appreciate the fact that you are not constantly wondering whether things can be done differently or better. By nature, you get along well with people who are original without simply refusing to maintain the status quo.

3. Key personality types

In this section, whether combinations of personality traits will result in an additional key personality type is reviewed. You have seen your score for each of the main traits for the Big Five. The score was assessed in terms of (very) high, (just) above-average, average, (just) below-average or (very) low. Combining the non-average scores results in key personality types that significantly add to your five personality traits. A key personality type can be used to summarize your personality based on your scores for the Big Five. A person with an very high score for Emotional stability and an very high score for Extraversion can also be very decisive. This person will be relatively unaffected by stress while also being the type to easily take charge. A person who scores above average for these personality traits but not very high has this personality type to a somewhat lesser degree. The personality type is then applicable clearly or depending on the situation rather than very clearly

Your scores for four of the five scales in the Big Five were average, meaning that none of the combinations of the personality dimensions can supply additional and meaningful information. This means that your personality profile is rather balanced. The advantage of a balanced profile is that in terms of personality, you feel at ease in many situations and many consider you to be a pleasant individual. As a result, you are generally relatively flexible and easy to deal with. People with more extreme scores will generally place more specific demands on their environment and will not feel equally at ease in any situation. People with a more balanced personality, like you, are not as troubled by that.

4. Summary

Some people are naturally more modest while others gladly sing their own praises. Because this report reflects how you see yourself, the results may have been influenced in a certain direction. You can also have someone else who knows you relatively well complete the test about you. Differences as compared to the test you completed for yourself may say something about your self-image or the way you show yourself to others.

Personality traits are generally considered to be relatively constant over the course of time. It is therefore wiser to look at the traits that you have and how they can be used to your advantage than to try to change a trait. That is much more difficult if not impossible, and requires relatively much more energy. Moreover, a certain trait that is less desirable in some situations can be highly advantageous in another situation, work or otherwise. The challenge is finding a hobby, study, partner, and home or work environment that is the best suited to your personality. The better the fit between your environment and your personality, the more at ease you will be and the better you will feel. This can be translated into happiness, success or pleasant relationships with others.

Lastly, it should be noted that this test measures five of your personality traits. A person's personality cannot, however, be completely expressed in five traits. Each individual is too unique to determine exactly how his or her personality works merely based on a list of questions. This test gives you the vocabulary with which you can look at yourself in comparison to others and learn from that comparison. In other words, understand that the test summarizes your personality without an ultimate total judgment. That is theoretically nearly impossible to do.



 (from  7/31/2001



Your result for The Personality Plus Profiler Test ...


43 Sanguine, 14 Melancholy, 36 Choleric, 29 Phlegmatic

Hail to you who is SANGUINE!!!

Oh how the world needs the Fun Sanguine. The lift of joy in troubled times. The touch of innocence in a jaded era. The gift of humor when we're heavy hearted. The enthusiasm and energy to start over and over again. The creativity and charm to color a drab day. The simplicity of a child in complex situations.

Here is why you totally rock:
You are enthusiastic, excitable, the life of the party, talkative, a story teller, cheerful, sincere, wide eyed & innocent, curious, emotional, demonstrative, and fun. You are adaptable, you live in the present, and you have a good sense of humor. In your workplace, you think up new activities,volunteer for jobs, start in a flashy way, inspire others to join, charm others to work, look great on the surface, have boundless energy, and you are creative and colorful. As a friend you make friends easily, love people, turn disaster into humor, thrive on compliments, seem exciting, are envied by others, don't hold grudges, apologize quickly, prevent dull moments & like spontaneous activities.

Here is how you suck (sorry it is true, but trust me, it'll be okay):
You are a compulsive talker who exaggerates, elaborates, dwells on trivia, gets lost in tangents, and can't remember names. You scare others off, has too much energy for some, you have a loud voice, a loud laugh, and you seem phony to some. You are egotistical, naive, easily angered, immature, frenetic, restless, and disorganized. At work you are forgetful, don't follow through, undisciplined, your priorities are out of order, you would rather talk than work, you decide by feelings, easily distracted, and your confidence fades fast. As a friend you hate to be alone, need to be center stage, want credit, want to be liked and wants to be popular. You dominate conversations, interrupts and don't listen, you answer for others, repeat stories, make excuses and your are fickle.

And yet still, you are everyone's favorite, deservedly so, because you are so wonderful! I mean, everyone has weaknesses, but at least you are interesting! You make life into an adventure. You rock.




(from 8/22/2011


Newly discovered test.... Interesting results...Hmmm...



You're A seeker

from  (2/4/12)



you just get me

from   (2/4/12)



Your personality tendencies in a nutshell...

You rarely make commitments to people or your environment because you prefer to keep your options open, even at the expense of achievement. You are curious about many different things and highly value artistic expressions and ingenious thoughts. You tend to be relaxed in most situations and can handle stress well. You are typically respectful toward others and dislike confrontation. You show some tendency toward being outgoing and sociable.

Your link:'s guest psychologist Dr. Peggy has a little more, uh, informalinterpretation of your traits... 

About that "Casual" bubble... As a child, your mother probably told you to pick up your room at least a zillion times. Alas, you didn't pick up your room then, and you sure as heck ain't going to pick up your room now. Look around; you probably see a stockpile of dirty dishes, clothes on the floor, and maybe even leftover pizza behind the couch from the 1980s. Is it a wonder why you can never find your keys? Speaking of finding things, where's Pookie, the pooch? Probably underneath all of the junk that used to be known as your living room. You tend to be impulsive and wind up doing things that other people might consider extremely risky. Just because you packed up your belongings and moved to India one day to become a snake charmer does not mean that you don't have a plan. Because of your laissez-faire attitude, you will always think that everything is okay and will probably spend much less of your life worrying about mundane stuff than other people. Who knows, you might just enjoy an adventure or two along the way.

About that "Abstract" bubble... You are intellectually curious, imaginative, and literary. I do believe the technical term is "artsy fartsy." When reading poetry, the images may move you until you quiver with delight, or perhaps quivering from all of the espresso that you've been drinking. Speaking of caffeine, it would not be a big surprise if you indulged in other substances to heighten your senses. After all, whoever heard of creative geniuses who were sober? Freud was a coke-head, Hemingway was a fall-down drunk, and Robert Johnson supposedly sold his soul to the devil, probably while high on wacky tabacky. You have quite the active fantasy life and are often in la la land, earning you the well-deserved nickname "space cadet" from your loved ones. Mostly, you're a lot of fun to hang out with because you're always game for whatever idea your non-medicated (but should be) friend has in mind. The next time someone suggests that you streak naked in the dead of winter, do think twice, or at least wear some mittens.

About that "Unemotional" bubble... Some people consistently react emotionally to their environment and freak out over little things. You, my friend, are not among those people - at least not usually. Worrying and stressing are not your typical style. Even faced with absurd circumstances, you are calm and may pride yourself in your ability to use logic and reason. As a consequence of your Dalai Lama-like persona, you seldom experience the highs and lows of more emotionally reactive folks. Rather, your moods could be graphed like the flat-line of an ER patient. That analogy may seem grim, but *really*, who is more placid than the person who ceases to be? Anyhoo, if you're annoyed with my analogy right now, it's probably because you only scored medium high in the emotional stability trait and have some tendencies to be easily disturbed and offended.

About that "Cooperative" bubble... Your scores would suggest that you tend to be more agreeable than you are competitive. What does that mean? For starters, it means that you have a fairly strong tendency to believe in social harmony and cooperation. You are a nice person. You want people to get along and do the right thing - for each other, for the greater humanity. That's not to say that you are a total pushover, but that you believe in the niceties of life. This is probably why you are very popular with people and have many friends. The difference between you and someone who is very high in agreeableness is that you have a bit of an edge. Maybe you laugh when people fall down and hurt themselves, maybe you secretly occasionally think people suck. Whatever it is that's holding you back from winning Ms. or Mr. Congeniality, that's also what makes you more interesting.

About that "Extraverted" bubble... I have a friend who can strike up a conversation with anyone: Nobel Peace prize nominees and winners, muppets, sanitation workers, perfect strangers, my crazy uncle Harry. My friend is a bona-fide extravert. Your scores indicate that while you tend to be extraverted, you also have some degree of reserve. Perhaps in some situations, you prefer to say less or maybe you have duct tape over your mouth. Either way, you may save your high energy for the situations when you have a need or desire to be "on" and your quiet moments for those with whom you feel most comfortable. 

resilience factor inventory

from (2/5/12)



The 7 Factors of Resilience & How to Boost Them Using the Adaptiv Skills


Everyone stands to benefit from boosting resilience. Now that you’ve completed the Resilience Factor Inventory questionnaire and have seen how you compare to the Adaptiv norms for the 7 Factors of Resilience, you’re in a better position to evaluate your Resilience strengths and to see the areas where you can work on improving your resilience.


Consider those Resilience Factors where you rank above the Adaptiv norm as your areas of strength. You can work on boosting the other factors by attending an Adaptiv Training workshop (ask your HR or Training Department if they have Adaptiv Training planned for your group). Feel free to get in touch or have someone from your HR or Training Departments contact us. Or, you can begin to learn more about building resilience by reading The Resilience Factor: 7 Keys to Finding Your Inner Strengths and Overcoming Life’s Hurdles. 


Adaptiv Training teaches a set of concrete, practical skills that helps people boost their resilience factors. Here are brief definitions of the 7 Adaptiv Resilience Factors and the Adaptiv Skills you can learn in order to boost each one.


Emotion Regulation – The ability to stay calm under pressure. Resilient people can control their emotions, especially in the face of a challenge or adversity, in order to stay goal focused. This factor is important for succeeding at work, forming intimate relationships, and maintaining physical health.


Adaptiv Skills that boost Emotion Regulation: Skill 1, ABC; Skill 2, Avoiding Thinking Traps; Skill 3, Detecting Iceberg Beliefs; Skill 6, Calming; Skill 7, Real-time Resilience


Impulse Control – The ability to rein in your behavior under pressure. (Closely links to Emotion Regulation)


Adaptiv Skills that boost Impulse Control – Skill 1, ABC; Skill 2, Avoiding Thinking Traps; Skill 4, Challenging Beliefs; Skill 6, Calming; Skill 7, Real-time Resilience.


Causal Analysis – The ability to comprehensively – and accurately – identify the causes of problems, which helps you to avoid making the same mistakes over and over. Causal Analysis is driven by your Explanatory Style – the way you explain to yourself why a problem has occurred. Your Explanatory Style can help or hinder your problem solving ability. Good problem solving is the cornerstone of resilience, and you can learn to flex around your style to become more resilient.


Adaptiv Skills that boost Causal Analysis: Skill 1, ABC; Skill 2, Avoiding Thinking Traps; Skill 4, Challenging Beliefs; Skill 7, Real-time Resilience.


Self-efficacy – Our sense of competence and mastery in the world. This resilience factor represents our belief that we can solve problems we may experience and our faith in our ability to succeed.


Adaptiv Skills that boost Self-efficacy: Skill 1, ABC; Skill 4, Challenging Beliefs; Skill 5, Putting It In Perspective; Skill 7, Real-time Resilience.


Realistic Optimism – A belief that things can change for the better, that there is hope for the future and that you can control the direction of your life. In the truly resilient person, these beliefs are tempered by a healthy sense of reality – unlike unbridled or unrealistic optimism, which may lead to poor risk assessment and bad decisions.


Adaptiv Skills that boost Realistic Optimism: Skill 1, ABC; Skill 4, Challenging Beliefs; Skill 7, Real-time Resilience.


Empathy – How well you’re able to read other people’s cues to their psychological and emotional states. If you score high on Empathy, you have excellent people skills, which make you a more effective leader, team member, friend, spouse and parent.


Adaptiv Skills that boost Empathy: Skill 1, ABC; Skill 3, Detecting Iceberg Beliefs; Skill 7, Real-time Resilience.


Reaching Out – The ability to seek out new opportunities, challenges and relationships – to “push the envelope” in all areas of your life for greater satisfaction, success and resilience.

Adaptiv Skills that boost Reaching Out: Skill 1, ABC; Skill 3, Detecting Iceberg Beliefs; Skill 5, Putting It In Perspective; Skill 7, Real-time Resilience. 

Resilience scale


Moderately High Score = 131 to 145

 Ideas on increasing resilience:

   Discovering Your Resilience Core   Adobe PDF icon

Most of us are ordinary people. However, every one of us has extraordinary possibilities and strengths. Everyone stumbles and falls from time to time, but each of us has the capability to get back up and carry on. We call this ability to get up and get going resilience.

   Once we understand how to respond to challenges in life with resilience, downturns are not so overwhelming, defeating, or destructive. Resilient people respond to life's challenges with courage and emotional stamina, even when they are afraid. Downturns become challenges to face head-on and overcome. Even though we have no control over many events in our life—accidents, natural disasters, crime, illness, the economy, etc.—we can control how we respond to these events, and we can choose to do so with resilience.

   Does resilience really matter? Is it really important? After years of research into resilience, and having heard from thousands of individuals about their own resilience, it is becoming increasingly clear that resilience is very important to a person's health, both mental and physical. Our own research has shown that resilience protects against (and reverses) depression, anxiety, fear, helplessness, and other negative emotions, and thus has the potential to reduce their associated physiological effects.

   You can strengthen your resilience by enhancing your resilience core, which is made up of the five essential characteristics of resilience:

  • Meaningful life (purpose)
  • Perseverance
  • Self reliance
  • Equanimity
  • Coming home to yourself (existential aloneness)

We will discuss each of these characteristics and discus ways to strengthen your resilience below.

If you have not yet measured the strength of your resilience core using the Resilience Scaleor RS-14, why don't you spend a few minutes to do so now, and then come back and continue from this point. This knowledge will make the following paragraphs more relevant to you.

Meaningful Life (Purpose)

Having a sense of one's own meaning or purpose in life is probably the most important characteristic of resilience, because it provides the foundation for the other four characteristics. Life without purpose is futile and aimless. It can be difficult to get up in the morning if there is no good reason to do so. Purpose provides the driving force in life. When we experience inevitable difficulties, our purpose pulls us forward.

   Despite the popular self-help literature that emphasizes 'finding your purpose,' rarely is a person's purpose lost or hidden. Our purpose typically finds us, not the other way around. Becoming aware of your purpose is straightforward. Rather than spending a lot of time and energy turning over every stone to find your purpose, pay attention to what you are called to do every day, and your purpose will soon show itself. Ask yourself these questions:

  • What do I do that others value?
  • In what ways am I needed every day, and by whom?
  • What in my life has the most meaning?


The determination to keep going despite difficulties, discouragement, and disappointment...that's perseverance. Winston Churchill said it best: 'Never give in, never give in…never, never, never, never give in…' (Churchill, 1941). Lance Armstrong, the bicyclist who overcame cancer to win the Tour de France many times said, “We have two options, medically and emotionally: give up, or fight like hell.”

   Repeated failure or rejection (and the discouragement that follows) can be formidable roadblocks in life. They can prevent us from moving forward and attaining our goals. Resilient individuals are good at overcoming roadblocks. They tend to finish what they begin. Because of this, you can depend on them. If they say they are going to do something, they do it.

Resilience is the ability to bounce back when knocked down, and this takes perseverance. It is always tempting to give up, or take the easy path. It takes courage and emotional stamina to fight the good fight, and resilient people clearly demonstrate this ability. Establishing and adhering to a routine is one way to strengthen perseverance. Setting realistic goals and attaining them builds perseverance.

   In order to understand your level of perseverance, you might ask yourself these questions:

  1. Do I finish what I begin?
  2. How often am I defeated before I even try?
  3. Do others say I give up too quickly?
  4. Am I able to stay focused on my goals, or am I easily distracted?


Some people dwell on disappointments, are weighed down with regrets, or tend to turn everything bad that happens in their life into a catastrophe. They have a skewed and 'out of balance' view of life. Equanimity means balance and harmony. Resilient people learn to avoid extreme responses and 'sit loose in the saddle.'

   Resilient people understand that 'it is an ill wind that blows no good.' Life is neither all good nor all bad. People who respond with resilience recognize this and are open to many possibilities. This is one of the reasons resilient people are described as optimistic, because even when the situation looks doubtful, they are probably on the lookout for opportunities. Resilient people have also learned to draw on their own and others' experiences and wisdom, and to use this to guide their responses. Equanimity also manifests itself in humor. Resilient individuals can laugh at themselves and their circumstances.

   Do you have equanimity? Ask yourself these questions:

  • Do I see the glass as half-full or half-empty?
  • Do I look back on my life with so many regrets that I find it difficult to move on
  • Do I tend to create catastrophes from even the small things that happen in my life?
  • Would my family and close friends describe me as an optimist or a pessimist?

Self Reliance

Self-reliance is a belief in yourself, with a clear understanding of your capabilities and limitations. It comes from experience and the 'practice, practice, practice' that leads to confidence in your abilities.

Throughout our lifetime, we encounter challenges that we meet successfully. At other times, we fail. Self-reliant individuals have learned from these experiences and have developed many problem-solving skills. Furthermore, they use, adapt, strengthen, and refine these skills throughout life. This increases their self-reliance.

   In order to understand your own self-reliance, answer these questions:

  • Am I aware of all the things that I do well?
  • Do others who know me well describe me as a capable person?
  • Can I usually think through a problem and work out a good solution?
  • Can I do what needs to be done in an emergency, or do I fall apart?

Coming Home to Yourself (Existential Aloneness)

While we all live in the world with other people, resilient individuals learn to live with themselves. They become their own best friends. This is what 'coming home to yourself' means. We must face alone much of what we face in life; if we are content with ourselves, this is easier. Coming home is a journey that begins with getting to know yourself well. Along the way, you become 'comfortable in your own skin.'

   Being existentially alone does not deny the importance of shared experiences, nor does it demean significant and close relationships with others. It does mean that you must accept yourself as you are, warts and all.

   Most of us are ordinary people going about ordinary lives, but each of us is unique. We have much to contribute to the world around us. Many people fail to recognize this about themselves and are filled with despair. A resilient individual will recognize his or own worth.

Resilient people will also realize that they are in a class of their own and do not feel a pressure to conform. They are able to 'go it alone' if necessary.

Ask yourself the following questions to see if you are comfortable in your own skin:

  • Am I willing to take a course of action that I know to be right, but which is unpopular with my peers?
  • As I look back at my life, what sets me apart from everyone else?
  • Am I comfortable with whom I have become?

In Conclusion

Each of us has extraordinary possibilities and strengths. Each of us has the capability to get back up and carry on, whether we use it or not. This is resilience. Resilient people have courage and emotional stamina. They respond to challenges in an effective way. You can become more resilient.

Resilience matters. It is important. Resilience is very important to a person's mental and physical health. Resilience protects against (and reverses) depression, anxiety, fear, helplessness, and other negative emotions, and thus has the potential to reduce their associated physiological effects. Being more resilient improves the quality of life.

   Understand your resilience core, know where it is weak, take steps to strengthen it, and then go forward boldly and live resiliently.




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Teachers believe that doing what's right for humanity is the right thing to do. They put others first and have no hesitation in telling us to do the same, because for Teachers, rules and order are also important. Finally, they will consider moral principles, but only if they face conflicting interests between other people and the rules of the game. Teachers are good people who think of others first and are good to have around as long as you do as you're told! About 18% of adults are Teachers.

no hesitation in telling us to do the same, because for
Teachers, rules and order are also important. Finally,
they will consider moral principles, but only if they
face conflicting interests between other people and
the rules of the game. Teachers are good people who
think of others first and are good to have around as
long as you do as you're told! About 18% of adults are
is the right thing to do. They put others first and have
no hesitation in telling us to do the same, because for
Teachers, rules and order are also important. Finally,
they will consider moral principles, but only if they
face conflicting interests between other people and
the rules of the game. Teachers are good people who
think of others first and are good to have around as
long as you do as you're told! About 18% of adults are


Teachers believe that doing what's right for humanity
is the right thing to do. They put others first and have
no hesitation in telling us to do the same, because for
Teachers, rules and order are also important. Finally,
they will consider moral principles, but only if they
face conflicting interests between other people and
the rules of the game. Teachers are good people who
think of others first and are good to have around as
long as you do as you're told! About 18% of adults are


is the right thing to do. They put others first and have
no hesitation in telling us to do the same, because for
Teachers, rules and order are also important. Finally,
they will consider moral principles, but only if they
face conflicting interests between other people and
the rules of the game. Teachers are good people who
think of others first and are good to have around as
long as you do as you're told! About 18% of adults are


Teachers believe that doing what's right for humanity
is the right thing to do. They put others first and have
no hesitation in telling us to do the same, because for
Teachers, rules and order are also important. Finally,
they will consider moral principles, but only if they
face conflicting interests between other people and
the rules of the game. Teachers are good people who
think of others first and are good to have around as
long as you do as you're told! About 18% of adults are


is the right thing to do. They put others first and have
no hesitation in telling us to do the same, because for
Teachers, rules and order are also important. Finally,
they will consider moral principles, but only if they
face conflicting interests between other people and
the rules of the game. Teachers are good people who
think of others first and are good to have around as
long as you do as you're told! About 18% of adults are


Teachers believe that doing

what's right for humanity

is the right thing to do. They put others first and have
no hesitation in telling us to do the same, because for
Teachers, rules and order are also important. Finally,
they will consider moral principles, but only if they
face conflicting interests between other people and
the rules of the game. Teachers are good people who
think of others first and are good to have around as
long as you do as you're told! About 18% of adults are