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"The function and duty of a quality human being is the sincere and honest development of one's potential."
~ Bruce Lee


Self-Mastery is a Journey and Knowledge is Food.

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The Crumbs Fix

Posted on July 30, 2011 at 8:10 PM Comments comments (0)

Well, well, well.... what do we have here?

The Crumbs Fix:  Give up the crumbs and take a seat at the banquet table.  First, break up with the guys that are only giving you crumbs.  Then make a rule:  I only date men who are (a) available and (b) crazy about me (for real). Try this on for size, even if it means spending time with guys who "aren't good enough" but who treat you like royalty.  By the way, if you do this, the crumb-giver may come around!  If he starts courting you, give him a chance. But don't jump right back in.  Slowly let him prove to you that he is changing. Encourage him to go into therapy or work on himself to see if he can be more giving and the two of you can come together in a way that is fulfilling for both of you.


You need to learn about what it really means to be loved. Make an affirmation to the effect of, "I deserve respect, care and love."  Post it where you can read it every day.  Treat yourself with TLC.  Practice asking for what you want, no matter how expensive or "inappropriate" or "bothersome" it is.  Also, practice receiving and saying "Yes," when those things come to you.  Because they will.


(from Dr. Diana Kirschner)

Center of the Universe

Posted on July 27, 2011 at 5:48 PM Comments comments (0)

"How do we raise children to be confident without being narcissistic? First, it is important to set clear rules for your children and don't budge on them. By saying no and meaning it, you are refusing to give your child the power in the relationship. Living with rules and boundaries teaches children they are not the center of the universe. Second, avoid sending messages that communicate a "win at all cost" mentality. Narcissistic college students admit to their inflated self-views, but justify them by stating that overconfidence is required to survive the modern highly-competitive world. Confidence is something we want to instill in our children, but overconfidence will set them up with unrealistic expectations and encourage them to be too risky in their decisions. Finally, we need to teach our children empathy and compassion for others. These are qualities we often talk about but rarely model for our children."


Feeding the wolf

Posted on July 27, 2011 at 3:44 PM Comments comments (0)



There is an old American Indian proverb about a Cherokee chief who is teaching his grandson about life, and he says:

-  "There is a fight going on inside me.  It is a terrible fight and it is between 2 wolves."  

-  "One wolf is evil --- he is self-pity, envy, regret, resentment, anger, self-indulgence, ego."

 -  "The other wolf is good --- he is love, compassion, hope, kindness, peace, humility, generosity."

-  The old chief went on to say, "This same fight is going on inside you.  And it is going on inside every other person as well."

-  The grandson seemed deep in thought for several minutes, and then he asked: "Grandfather, which wolf will win?"

-  The old Cherokee chief replied: "The one you feed."


Hurting the ones we love...

Posted on July 27, 2011 at 12:24 PM Comments comments (0)


"Mutual dependency has many advantages, stemming from the fact that two people are joined together in an attempt to increase each other's happiness. However, a sense of independence is also important for each person's self-esteem. Sometimes lovers hurt their beloved in order to show their independence. Other times, however, hurting the beloved expresses an opposite wish: the lover's wish for more dependency and attention. Indeed, a common complaint of married women (far more than of married men) is that their partners do not spend enough time with them. Hurting the beloved by stopping, for example, communicating with him, may be the last alarm bell that warns of the lover's difficulties; it is an extreme measure signaling urgency.



Since the beloved is a major source of happiness, this person is also a major threat to our happiness: more than anyone else, the beloved can ruin it."

The Four Quadrants

Posted on July 26, 2011 at 4:47 PM Comments comments (0)


How to Prioritize by Importance – And Stick to It

How can you start concentration on what really matters, instead of on what seems most pressing?


The Four Quadrants

There’s a useful technique in time-management that involves dividing your tasks into a grid with four “quadrants”, which are:

Urgent and Important (eg. “My big report is due in three hours”

Important but Not Urgent (eg. “I’m delivering a presentation next month”

Urgent but Not Important (eg. “My library books are due back today”

Not Important and Not Urgent (eg. “I’m watching YouTube clips”

Focusing on “Important”

So how can you draw your focus back to the stuff that matters? How can you make sure you’re working on what’s truly important before it becomes urgent?


I’d suggest a few simple things:

- Get rid of your “not urgent and not important” activities. (Note – that doesn’t mean get rid of things that relax and recharge you: they are important.)

- Make sure that “urgent and not important” activities never get in the way of “important and not urgent” ones. Frankly, it’s probably better for you to work on your dissertation for two hours, instead of spending that time racing across town with your soon-to-be-overdue library books.

- Remember that “important” is a matter of perspective. Be honest with yourself about what’s important to you. Important tasks are ones which enrich your life: they don’t have to be ones that involve making money or advancing your career.

- Start off your day with an “important and not urgent” task. This might be writing a chapter of your novel, getting some exercise, sorting out your tax return, learning a new language... as per the previous point, you define what’s important to you.

Buddah says...

Posted on July 23, 2011 at 7:09 AM Comments comments (0)

Motions are the precursors of emotions

Posted on July 23, 2011 at 4:48 AM Comments comments (0)


"Motions are the precursors of emotions. Renowned psychologist Dr. George Crane writes in his book Applied Psychology that you can't control your emotions directly. They are controlled only through your choice of motions and actions. So the secret is not to focus on getting rid of negative emotions, but rather to focus on going through the desired “motions” you set out to do every day, whether it’s working, exercising, or doing a kind deed. If you do, I promise you’ll soon be feeling more desirable “emotions.”

I want to end this post with a little poem I wrote. It’s a great reminder for me when I encounter difficult emotions. Here it goes:

If you don’t feel like getting up in the morning, get up anyway.

If you don’t feel appreciated and loved, give your best anyway.

If you feel hurt and angry, forgive anyway.

If feel afraid or worried, take action anyway.

If you don’t feel like smiling, smile anyway.

If you feel like it’s going to be a bad day, make it a good one anyway."


Get Back On The Train

Posted on July 23, 2011 at 3:56 AM Comments comments (0)

Buy Memories instead of Material

Posted on July 23, 2011 at 3:36 AM Comments comments (0)


Apparently money can make ya' sick (physically and mentally), but what I took from this was how to make purchases that promote health and happiness instead of buying that expensive new TV:

- Use money for Leisure Activities (Recreation & Camps & Vacations)


- Buy Memories, instead of Material


- Think about your purchases (instead of impulse buying) : waiting and thinking about what you really want is more emotionally satisfying.

What we learned...

Posted on July 23, 2011 at 3:29 AM Comments comments (0)

(Legal) Drug Dealer

Who: Deanna Candek, 38, a pharmacist from Vail, Ariz.

What She Makes: $127,054

What We Learned: Learning a trade is still a solid way to secure a steady salary.



Vehicles with Highest Resale Value

Posted on July 22, 2011 at 9:43 PM Comments comments (0)

Here are some good and interesting information to know for the future...

Kelley Blue Book and have published their 2011 list of vehicles with the best resale values after 3-5  years of ownership. Some of those listed were weird as heck to me (i.e. Subaru's and Honda's), but most were generally unattractive.  I can say I did liked a couple and maybe will consider them in the future when I'm in the market for a new car.

Favorites :

Audi S5 Quattro


Infiniti G Coupe

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The lazy person's guide to getting things done

Posted on July 20, 2011 at 9:08 PM Comments comments (0)


1. Make a list

Getting organized begins with one fundamental tool—a list. Lists can help you feel more in control of your life and help you remember what needs to get done. Buy a little notebook and carry it around with you so it’s always easy to refer to. Enjoy the sense of accomplishment when you cross even one item off the list.


2. Focus on what really matters

Make a list of the priorities that need to get done today---not tomorrow or a month from now. It’s okay to let the house get a little messy or let your emails pile up for a day or two. Tackle what absolutely cannot wait first.


3. Break things down into smaller steps

If a task seems overwhelming, break it down into more manageable, specific goals. Telling yourself you need to “lose 10 pounds” isn’t specific enough about how you’re going to get there. Set smaller goals in short-term increments, like walking three times for an hour in the next week or doing 10 sit-ups each day. By setting baby steps, you’ll be much more likely to accomplish your goal and also be inspired to go further.


4. Put a time limit on yourself

It’s always hardest getting started, but it’s a lot easier to say “I’m going to work on this for 30 minutes starting now.” Then stop. Sometimes, knowing there’s light at the end of the tunnel can get you going—and even help give you the momentum you need to keep going.


5. Eliminate distractions

In this era of immediacy, it’s easy to get side-tracked by a million little things that sap our motivation. If you really need to get something done, turn your phone off. Stop answering emails. Make yourself unavailable. If you’re at work, close your door or put headphones on to make it harder for someone to interrupt you.

How to Prioritize and Get Things Done

Posted on July 20, 2011 at 8:11 PM Comments comments (0)


When you prioritize, you're determining what needs to get done, and in what order you should perform those actions. Very often, one may concentrate on getting lots of easy tasks done. But just because you're crossing off tons of items on your To Do list, doesn't necessarily mean you're completing the important stuff--the tasks that will help you achieve your goals.


1. Look into the future. What do you want out of life? Do you want to play guitar well enough to be able to perform for your children? Do you want to travel the country? Do you want to have a beautiful vegetable garden in your backyard? While it is certainly important to get your day- to-day things done, it's also important to schedule in time for activities that will help you achieve the 'higher level' goals you've set for yourself.


2. Make a Master List. This is simply a long running list of everything you want to accomplish. It's in no particular order, but is essentially a holding place and a reference so you don't forget any activity and so that you're not trying to remember everything that needs to get done.


3. Scan your list and assign A, B or C. Assign each activity one of the following letter codes:

A - Those activities that are important AND urgent and will impact you greatly if you don't accomplish them right way.

B - Those activities that are important to be done, but not urgent. You have time to accomplish them before they have a great impact on your life.

C - Those activities that may be nice to do sometime, but if you don't do them, you wouldn't be terribly disappointed.

4. It's not set in stone. Your letter assignments may change over time. Just because you assign an B priority to one of your activities today, doesn't mean it has to stay a B priority. It may turn into an A priority or a C priority in the future. Use your priority assignments as a guide, but don't be reluctant to change them if the need arises.

5. Focus. Now it's time to focus on just a few activities listed on your Master List. You'll want to include a mixture of activities on your Daily To Do list. I recommend you choose three A priorities, two B priorities and one C priority. So each day, you'll have a total of 6 activities to focus on.


6. Make a schedule. Use a tool, such as the Daily Planner in the Get Organized Now! Easy Organizer, to plan your day. Schedule in time for each of your priorities, leaving some free time throughout your day for getting daily things done (dusting, cooking, etc.) and for rest and relaxation.


7. Early bird or night owl? In general, you'll want to schedule so that you actually get those A priority tasks done, no matter what. I find that if I do my top priority tasks first thing in the morning and get them out of the way, than it's pretty smooth sailing the rest of the day. However, some people are able to better focus in the afternoon or the evening, so A priority tasks are sometimes better left for this time of day for some people. No matter what time of day you choose to focus on your A priorities, be sure you don't allow anything (except dire emergencies) to take over the time you originally scheduled to complete those priorities.



8. If something comes up . . . There are going to be times when you decide to do something in place of the activities you have initially assigned. For instance, the other day I had some activities planned for the afternoon, but a friend called and asked if I wanted to go to a local event with her in town. I weighed my options. I still had one B and one C priority on my list and I knew if I went to the event, that these would not get done today. I decided to meet her at the event, and complete the B priority I had assigned when I returned home afterwards, and I also decided to move the C priority to tomorrow.


Of course, while I do allow for flexibility in my schedule from time to time, I don't make a habit out of doing this.

Most of the time, I stick to getting my priorities accomplished unless something very palatable arises that is important enough to me to push some of my originally assigned activities to tomorrow or another day. Check out dozens of other scheduling tips in my book Finally Organized, Finally Free. Visit:


9. The next day. You'll always want six activities on your Daily To List, again three A priorities, two B priorities and one C priority --or less than 6 if you can never get 6 completed. If you did not accomplish one or more of your priorities from yesterday, those priorities should be on your list the next day--along with other priorities from your Master List to take the place of those priorities that you did manage to accomplish yesterday.


10. Reward yourself. If you follow this system, you will get an enormous amount of important things done, and you'll more easily be able to reach your goals. As you get things done, particularly your A priorities, reward yourself along the way. For instance, you can sprinkle mini rewards throughout your day, such as a walk in the park or an outing with a friend. A more major reward should be enjoyed when you accomplish something big, such as passing a major exam or remodeling a room in your home.

Life Path Number: 3

Posted on July 10, 2011 at 2:58 AM Comments comments (0)


Hey!  It's my Birthday and according to the above site, my life path number is:

"3(3,12/3, 21,/3, 30/3)

The Life Path 3indicates that you entered this planewith a strong sense of creativity and with wonderful communicationskills. Achievement for you most likely comes through engaging youringenious expression. A truly gifted 3 possesses the most exceptionalinnovative skills, normally in the verbal realm, writing, speaking,acting, or similar endeavors. Here we are apt to find the entertainersof the world, bright, effervescent, sparkling people with veryoptimistic attitudes. The bright side of this path stresses harmony,beauty and pleasures; of sharing your inventive talents with the world.Capturing your capability in creative self-expression is the highestlevel of attainment for this life path. Life is generally lived tothe fullest, often withoutmuch worry about tomorrow. You are not very good at handling moneybecause of a general lack of concern about it. You spend it when youhave it and don't when you don't.

The 3 loves connecting withpeople. The characteristicsof the 3 are warmth and friendliness, a good conversationalist, socialand open. A good talker both from the standpoint of being a delight tolisten to, but even more importantly, one who has the ability to listento others. Accordingly, the life path 3 produces individuals who arealways a welcome addition to any social situation and know how to makeothers feel at home. The approach to life tends to be exceedinglypositive. Your disposition is almost surely sunny and openhearted. Ahappy and often inspired person, you are constantly seeking and needingthe stimuli of similar people.

There is a remote side toyour 3 Life Path, as well.This comes as a surprise to the native and to those who think they arewell acquainted. The 3 is actually a very sensitive soul. When hurt,you can easily retreat to a shell of morose silence for extendedperiods. Nonetheless, the 3 eventually copes with all of the manysetbacks that occur in life and readily bounces back for more. It isusually easy for you to deal with problems because you can freely admitthe existence of problems without letting them get you down for toolong. Because of your own sensitivity to hurt, you have a caringdisposition and seem to be very conscious of other people's feelingsand emotions.

In romance, the 3 is a veryardent and loyal lover.Affairs that don't go well can leave scares that seem to linger.Emotional experiences of all sorts tend to deeply touch the 3 and thedrama may take some time to play out. Regrettably, the givingdisposition of the 3 often attracts demanding partners. As with most oflife's issues for the 3 Life Path, balance in relationships is illusive.

Your big test with a 3 LifePath is controlling yourhighs and lows. You won't survive very well in any routine environmentor when you are placed under dominating management. Slow thinking andoverly contemplative people tend to frustrate you, and you don'tfunction too well with this type whether you are working for, with, orunder them. Your exuberant nature can take you far, especially if youare ever able to focus your energies and talents.

For the few living on thenegative side of this LifePath, a 3 may be so delighted with the joy of living that the lifebecomes frivolous and superficial. You may scatter your abilities andexpress little sense of purpose. The 3 can be an enigma, for noapparent reason you may become moody and tend to retreat. Escapisttendencies are not uncommon with the 3 life path, and you find it veryhard to settle into one place or one position. Guard against beingcritical of others, impatient, intolerant, or overly optimistic."


Soul Goddess

Posted on June 27, 2011 at 1:37 AM Comments comments (0)

How can I stay centered and grounded no matter what

Posted on June 26, 2011 at 7:29 AM Comments comments (0)


"When I am working with clients, one of the first core capabilities I teach them is about is how to minimize getting thrown off balance. They learn how to become more "awake" and grounded.

I'd like to pass on some tips for how you can do this in your own life, because it's a key skill that can help you in several ways:

- minimize the feeling of being out of control in your life

- start building and sharpening your gut-awareness, an important early warning system that's needed to be able to navigate your Disquiet.

- help you perform more effectively in the things that are important to you

- begin to build an ability for you to feel grounded and centered - no matter what

When we are threatened - either physically or emotionally, our "fight or flight" system is activated. Remember that concept from high school biology? It is very real. Having a gun pointed at your head or your mortgage check bounce causes the same amount of adrenaline to be dumped into your system as your blood is diverted to your extremities to help you either run or duke it out. Then, the brain activity diverts energy from the logical part of our brain to the most primitive reptilian part that's in charge of our most basic survival.

So the thing to do is minimize this chemical reaction as much as possible, and to buy some time to let whatever adrenaline that is released dissipate a bit and get our brains back online.

Enter the wisdom from meditation used in martial arts and spiritual traditions. There is something you can learn to do in real-time that will help. It's easy and it works!

The following is a practice adapted from an exercise in a great book called "Retooling on the Run: Real Change for Leaders With No Time", by Stuart Heller and David Surrender.

Below you will see the instructions that I use with my clients. To learn this, I first recommend you actually listen to the instructions told to you while you are sitting quietly with your eyes closed. To hear these instructions, you can listen or download it by going to my blog and clicking on the "Centered Presence Practice" button.

Once you have practiced it a couple of times in a slow relaxed way with your eyes closed, begin trying it real-time in your day-to-day activities. While you are talking to someone, try it - right then. The next time you are in a hectic staff meeting, try it. Eyes open and while you are talking (yes, you can do this while you are doing other things). The next time you're in a conversation that goes ballistic with your spouse or kid, try it.

The more you practice, the more accessible it gets. It can become second nature. When I am in a coaching session with someone, I use this practice myself probably a dozen times inside a 90 minute conversation. It keeps me present and focused. It also comes in handy at home - in thosetouchy situations with my significant other and my teenage son.

Give it a try and let me know how it goes!

The Practice: "Centered Presence"

-  Find your Feet

-  Feel your feet touching the floor.

-  Notice the pressure and the contact between your feet and the floor.

-  Become aware of how warm or cold your feet maybe.

-  Whatever you can sense there, let that awareness increase and spread throughout your body.

-  And take a nice deep breath.

-  Find your Hands

-  Bring your awareness to your hands. What can you feel?

-  Sense the air moving around them. What is their temperature? Whatever sensation you can detect, let it increase and spread throughout your body.

-  And take a deep breath.

-  Find your Head

-  Look and listen to what is going on around you and within you.

-  Tune in to your senses of taste and smell.

-  Notice how your head balances on top of your spine.

-  Let the sensations grow in strength and spread throughout your body.

- While maintaining this quality of sensation, let a new breath emerge.

- Find your Breath Inhale and exhale on purpose

- Focus your attention on the middle of your torso

- Relax and let your breath move to its own rhythm

- Let the sensations grow in strength and spread throughout your body.

Let me know how it goes! Or contact me with any questions at [email protected]

I hope you find this helpful in your life.


Soul Injury

Posted on June 26, 2011 at 5:31 AM Comments comments (0)



There is very little in this world that is permanent, or not influenced by other forces of energy. Glaciers move, mountains erode, whole continents float on a supporting bed of molten rock. The soul is no different, it is affected and changed by the forces around it. When these forces are mostly supportive, the soul grows towards a greater connection to the souls around it; nature, other people, other land masses. A person lives in greater harmony with other people, and is better able to help other souls to grow. When the forces around a soul are mostly unsupportive, or worse; when a person experiences trauma that affects them on all levels, the chance for soul injury occurs. When one considers that the body can be injured, and the 'mind', it is not a small stop to also consider that the soul can be injured too.


I believe that the soul can be fragmented, or wounded. That - after certain types of trauma - the soul can split off into different 'pieces.' The majority of the soul stays with the person, so that they are able to function and live; though often not thrive. And the frightened, hurt, or damaged soul fragments tend to find their way into the Otherworlds (which is the location - I believe - for all souls, it is after all where many lands of the dead are found), where many different things can happen to them.


Events that can cause soul injury


The two most obvious ones that I see personally are:


- Abuse of ANY kind, at any age, including but not limited to; sexual, physical and emotional abuse, general bullying and domestic violence.


- Surgery (major or minor).


Other causes of soul injury are:


- Sudden, unexpected trauma like car accidents, being mugged or attacked, being exposed to catastrophic natural disaster (e.g. losing a home in a fire, or storm).


- Being in a war zone.


- Chronic pain. (Sometimes chronic pain can actually cause - rather than be a response to - soul injury.)


- Loss of a loved one (particularly a spouse, child, or parent). This can include the loss of pets.


- Being deliberately harmed by other, experienced (or inexperienced) people who work with energy or 'magic.' This was more of a reality for those Indigenous cultures who competed with each other for resources and may attack a 'Shaman' to undermine a community.

Symptoms of soul loss


I feel these symptoms don't necessarily always indicate soul loss. And they don't always suggest an absolute need to locate someone experienced in soul healing either; after all, many people do eventually learn how to heal and aid their own soul.


- Feeling a sense of differentness after a particular event. Phrases like 'I was never the same after that day,' or 'I lost a part of myself,' or 'I want to get that part of me back again,' or 'nothing has tasted the same, nothing has felt the same since then.'


- Pervasive feelings of numbness, or a feeling of detachment from the world, including other people and animals, plants etc. in nature. Chronic and persistent feelings of loss that may not be easily explained.


- Chronic illnesses that don't have a genetic component; unexplained or sudden onsets of eczema and other dermatological complaints, gastro-intestinal upset, chronic and unexplained joint and nerve pain, tension headaches and migraines, etc.


- The development of mental illnesses like depression and anxiety. Remember that depression and anxiety can have additional environmental and genetic components and while soul healing may help - it is not a 'cure' to be used in lieu of therapy or if necessary; medication.


- The presence of low self-esteem, or even self-hatred. Dissatisfaction with the self, the body, or the mind.


- An inability to 'let go' of something that has occurred. If it is the loss of a loved one, it may be a feeling of being tied to that person years after the loss has occurred; in a way that stops you from moving forward. A sense of 'hanging on,' even if you know you don't want to.


Luckily, the soul, mind and body tend to work as a unit; rather than three separate 'wholes.' So therapy for a mental illness can actually help with soul healing too. And physical therapy for a chronic pain complaint, can help the mind to gain greater equilibrium (as the body experiences less pain) and the soul to become more whole. Likewise, soul healing and soul retrieval can aid mental illness and chronic health problems.

Soul healing tends to come in different forms:


Soul Retrieval - This is when a shaman, or neo-Shamanist (the list of terms I could use here goes on a long way!) journeys into the otherworlds in order to locate soul 'fragments' and return them to the client or person in question.


Soul extraction / banishing / cleansing - The act of removing any metaphysical 'dirt' or wounds from a soul, usually by sucking them out of spirit and then removing them from the body. Soul extraction is usually necessary with someone who also needs soul retrieval, as if you have gaps or spaces in the spirit, other energies often volunteer to fill them in (whether you like it or not).


Working with other spirit guides - One practice I do, and have known others to do, is to actively interact with another person's spirit guides and support and work with them - sometimes intensively - to help the healing of the person in question. This can be a very benign or gentler form of healing, especially for folks who may not be willing to commit to more intensive soul therapies.


Self-discipline. Cultivating the habit of completion

Posted on June 26, 2011 at 3:41 AM Comments comments (0)


Why do we procrastinate?

Why do we sabotage ourselves even when we know what we should do to move towards our goal? I read a great post by Leo Baubata of Zen Habits a couple of months ago where he talked of 4 reasons why we procrastinate:

1)  It provides Instant Gratification – It feels better right now

2)  It avoids Fear – If I do it wrong what will they say? What will they think of me? If I don’t act then I avoid the risk of making a mistake.

3) It has no immediate negative consequences – Jim Rohn says “We all have the choice of one of two great pains in the world – the pain of regret or the pain of discipline”. The pain of discipline is here and now. The pain of regret comes later… but is by far the worse pain.

4) I overestimate my future self – I have some inner belief that I will be smarter, better, faster in the future. This is a strong belief. The work that is hard today must somehow be easier for the better future me? But, what if’s not? I am deceiving myself.

Self-discipline grows with use.

Self-discipline, like muscle, grows with use. Keep one promise, the next one will be is easier. Run tonight, tomorrow easier. Write now, tomorrow easier.

The other side of the coin, however, is that without use, discipline shrinks! No run today, harder tomorrow. No writing today, harder tomorrow.


How can you develop your self-discipline?

Here are some simple “first steps” you might want to try after reading this article:

1)  Try the Pomodoro technique. Do 10 minutes on something important right now.

2) Take time each morning to reflect on what is important

3)  Avoid “the watercooler gang” – the groups in our offices and schools who are happily unproductive and enjoy helping others take their place in the group. Make a list of 2-3 people who support you when you talk of your progress in something important in your life.

4)  Never underestimate the role of practice and persistence and hard work in success. The “3 steps to untold riches programs” don’t work. The “flat tummy in 1 week while watching TV plan” doesn’t work. There are no shortcuts. Don’t waste time looking.

5)  Inspiration tends to come when you have trudged through 40 minutes of painful effort and have not allowed yourself to check email, make a coffee, eat chocolate, check IM… You have to push through to get to inspiration.

The Kapha Type

Posted on June 26, 2011 at 12:20 AM Comments comments (0)


"Kapha types have good endurance, strength and stamina.

  • Although it is easy for you to follow routine, it is healthier for you to periodically break from routine.

  • You tend toward inertia and tend to attach to people or things.

  • Food and security are important to you.

  • The primary organ is the chest.

  • Kapha is often correlated with the production of mucus.

  • Kapha types have a tendency towards congestion, sinusitis, sluggishness, weight gain, diabetes or water retention.

  • In order to be balanced, Kaphas should be physically active, consume little fried or fatty foods, avoid icy drinks, sweets or excessive amounts of bread. They should enjoy plenty of fresh vegetables.

  • Kapha types should allow excitement, change and challenge to become a regular part of their lives."


  KAPHA roams peacefully through the forest, meandering amongst the sweet scent of flowers and trees, stopping to talk with deer and to ponder the day. Slow and steady from forest to meadow, from valley to mountain, steadfast and strong through all walks of life.

Kapha is a combination of the elements Water and Earth. Kapha reflects the qualities of those elements such as heavy, cold, wet, slow, steady, soft, sweet, thick, oily and smooth. Think of Kapha as cohesive, literally giving shape, density, form and structure to the body. The Kapha dosha is responsible for mental functions like memory, serenity, faith, forgiveness, devotion, and emotions like love, affection, calmness, patience, sympathy, attachment, depression, greed and lethargy. Kapha provides the function of growth, development, stability, lubrication, and storage within the body. Those with predominant Kapha are susceptible to weight gain, respiratory congestion, depression, and oversleeping. Kapha is aggravated by sweet, sour, and salty tastes, cold, damp climates, excessive sleep, and lack of stimulating exercise. The tastes of bitter, pungent (spicy), and astringent balances Kapha, along with energetic activities, dry heat, invigorating scents, and energizing teas and spices to maintain their profound stamina and generous spirit.




Kapha: Oily skin (Earth & Water)


Kapha doshas are associated with structure. Kapha people are calm, loving, honorable and true to their word. They can sometimes become lethargic, slow to change or dull if not driven by others. When in balance they are patient, insightful and compassionate, but when imbalanced they can become controlling and insecure and physical symptoms of sinus congestion and weight gain can develop.


Kapha Skin:

Common Skin Problems: Kapha skin is prone to cystic acne, wet eczema, blackheads and excessively oily skin.


Caring for Kapha Skin: Healthy Kapha skin is smooth and free from wrinkles. Lucky you!  Use more detoxifying face masks such as our Chocolate and Peppermint Detoxifying Face Mask with Peppermint Activator. If you have oily skin exfoliating once or twice a week is very beneficial to the skin. Using a Nourishing Facial Oil for Oily skin with  ingredients such as jojoba  is important to balance out your sebum production. Kapha skin is more prone to breakouts. Try our Essential Blemish Stick that contains a unique blend of botanicals, including turmeric and neem that are effective in killing bacteria and reducing inflammation.


Once you know your skin type you have a great deal of control over the texture, clarity, and long-term health of your facial skin. The primary goal of Ayurveda is keeping our dohas in balance. Explore what Vysada has to offer for your skin type below.

  • Greasy, thickened skin, more tolerant of sun.
  • More likely to trap dirt in skin due to larger pores.
  • More prone to cystic acne, which can leave scars.

To Balance Kapha:

Take a hike in the mountains

Cook a spicy meal for friends

Avoid too many sweet or deep fried foods as they add oiliness to your skin


Suggested Food Choices for Kapha dosha

Posted on June 25, 2011 at 11:28 PM Comments comments (0)

The following list of suggested foods is by no means all-inclusive, but offers starting guidelines if you are new to ayurvedic dietary principles. We will add to this list regularly, so please check back often!

Grains: Buckwheat, quinoa, barley, millet, oats, amaranth, sago, small portions of Basmati rice, all cooked until tender

Vegetables: Asparagus, all kinds of greens, bitter gourd, green beans, lauki squash, artichoke, celery, Brussels sprouts, broccoli, cauliflower, beets, kohlrabi, daikon, radish, cabbage, all cooked

Fruits: Apricots, prunes, peaches, pears, cherries, berries, apples, lemons, limes, pomegranates, dried figs, raisins

Lentils: Mung beans, mung dhal, toor dhal, red or brown lentils, small portions of garbanzos, lima beans, black beans, all cooked until butter-soft

Dairy: Whole milk diluted with water, lassi, small portions of cottage cheese or fresh paneer cheese

Oils: Small portions of ghee and olive oil

Herbs: Cilantro, curry leaves, parsley, fresh basil, fresh mint, fresh oregano, fresh thyme, sage, neem leaves

Nuts and Seeds: Sunflower seeds, pumpkin seeds

Spices: Turmeric, cumin, cardamom, coriander, fennel, dried ginger, Chinese cinnamon, black pepper, Chinese cinnamon, mint, saffron, dill, lime zest, nutmeg, cayenne, fenugreek, mustard seed, oregano, marjoram, thyme, rosemary, paprika, mace, cloves

Other: Raw honey in moderation, unsalted unbuttered popcorn, crackers in moderation, cooked tofu in small quantities (diced small and cooked with spices)