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"The function and duty of a quality human being is the sincere and honest development of one's potential."
~ Bruce Lee


Career Test Result

Posted on July 31, 2011 at 6:10 AM Comments comments (0)

This description is a generalisation. If it rings true, you've found your career type.

You would most enjoy a career that allows you to meet new people. You would also be happiest in a career that allows you to be free and flexible, and allows you to be extremely creative. Some careers that would be perfect for you are: 

You are a great leader.

You genuinely enjoy being around other people. Your relationships with others are very important to you. You love talking and meeting new people.

You are very enthusiastic about work and about all that you do and have in your life. You love being the focus of attention. You enjoy a fast pace. You are very socially oriented. Therefore, you are much happier being with others than you are alone.

You crave interaction with others. You are very spontaneous and often act before you think. You are always quick to answer when you are asked a question, even if you aren't sure of the answer. It is easier for you to improvise as you go along.

You enjoy thinking out loud, and are most creative when brainstorming with friends or colleagues.

You enjoy being involved in many activities.  You are very easy to read, and often wear your heart on your sleeve. You are never afraid to tell people what you think. You are very empathetic and genuine. You can sometimes be seen as over-emotional or too involved by others. But that is only because you tend to get so involved in the things you do that they become personal.

You want to be adored, loved and appreciated. You like to please others and to make sure people are happy.  You trust your gut instincts.

You are easily inspired and trust that inspiration. You are very innovative. You analyse things by looking at the big picture.

You are concerned about how what you do affects others. You worry about your actions and the future. You tend to use a lot of metaphors and are very descriptive and colourful in your choice of language. 

You are very creative, and get bored easily if you don't get to express yourself. You like to learn new things. You don't like the same old routine. You like to leave your options open. "


Buddah says...

Posted on July 23, 2011 at 7:09 AM Comments comments (0)

Motions are the precursors of emotions

Posted on July 23, 2011 at 4:48 AM Comments comments (0)


"Motions are the precursors of emotions. Renowned psychologist Dr. George Crane writes in his book Applied Psychology that you can't control your emotions directly. They are controlled only through your choice of motions and actions. So the secret is not to focus on getting rid of negative emotions, but rather to focus on going through the desired “motions” you set out to do every day, whether it’s working, exercising, or doing a kind deed. If you do, I promise you’ll soon be feeling more desirable “emotions.”

I want to end this post with a little poem I wrote. It’s a great reminder for me when I encounter difficult emotions. Here it goes:

If you don’t feel like getting up in the morning, get up anyway.

If you don’t feel appreciated and loved, give your best anyway.

If you feel hurt and angry, forgive anyway.

If feel afraid or worried, take action anyway.

If you don’t feel like smiling, smile anyway.

If you feel like it’s going to be a bad day, make it a good one anyway."


Get Back On The Train

Posted on July 23, 2011 at 3:56 AM Comments comments (0)

The lazy person's guide to getting things done

Posted on July 20, 2011 at 9:08 PM Comments comments (0)


1. Make a list

Getting organized begins with one fundamental tool—a list. Lists can help you feel more in control of your life and help you remember what needs to get done. Buy a little notebook and carry it around with you so it’s always easy to refer to. Enjoy the sense of accomplishment when you cross even one item off the list.


2. Focus on what really matters

Make a list of the priorities that need to get done today---not tomorrow or a month from now. It’s okay to let the house get a little messy or let your emails pile up for a day or two. Tackle what absolutely cannot wait first.


3. Break things down into smaller steps

If a task seems overwhelming, break it down into more manageable, specific goals. Telling yourself you need to “lose 10 pounds” isn’t specific enough about how you’re going to get there. Set smaller goals in short-term increments, like walking three times for an hour in the next week or doing 10 sit-ups each day. By setting baby steps, you’ll be much more likely to accomplish your goal and also be inspired to go further.


4. Put a time limit on yourself

It’s always hardest getting started, but it’s a lot easier to say “I’m going to work on this for 30 minutes starting now.” Then stop. Sometimes, knowing there’s light at the end of the tunnel can get you going—and even help give you the momentum you need to keep going.


5. Eliminate distractions

In this era of immediacy, it’s easy to get side-tracked by a million little things that sap our motivation. If you really need to get something done, turn your phone off. Stop answering emails. Make yourself unavailable. If you’re at work, close your door or put headphones on to make it harder for someone to interrupt you.

Grounding thru Organization

Posted on June 25, 2011 at 6:48 AM Comments comments (0)

"7 Ways To Stay Grounded by Staying Organized

1.  Make your bed every day. Creating order and peacefulness in the bedroom settles the energies in that space and those good energies affect the rest of the house and you.

2. Clean up your kitchen every day. Having a clean and orderly kitchen calms the part of the house most associated with nurturance and comfort, also calming you.

3. Have morning and evening routines that are made up of activities of self-care, like bathing, exercising, tending to pets, straightening up. Tending yourself is a powerful way to ground and center yourself.

4. Sort your mail daily to make yourself aware of tasks that need to be done and bills that need to be paid. Knowing your reality is more calming than the anxiety produced by not knowing.

5. Keep paper in no more than two main locations, for example, the kitchen and the home office. Avoid allowing paper to spread throughout the house. When it spreads, its negative energy pollutes whatever area it is in. Paper is usually associated with some kind of task that needs to be done, like deciding whether you need the paper or not, or deciding where the paper should go next. When you see it all over the place it’s easy to feel overwhelmed by the message it is sending, “You need to do something!” When you are feeling overwhelmed your are not centered.

6. Maintain order by putting things away all the time. Avoid the temptation to just drop things. It takes much more energy to pick them up than it does to drop them. When items are just dropped they have a negative, chaotic energy that is anything but grounding. And, dropped things attract more dropped things!

7. Do at least one 5 minute cleanup per day. Either start or end your day with a quick cleanup. Put things away, move things to the part of the house where they belong, straighten your papers, throw out trash. Take that time to restore order to your space. One of the first things I do when I’m thrown off center by some bad news or a difficult situation is to establish order in my home. Some would call my behavior compulsive. I call it grounding!"


Setting Lifetime Goals Part 3

Posted on June 2, 2011 at 11:38 AM Comments comments (0)

from mindtools....

"The first step in setting personal goals is to consider what you want to achieve in your lifetime (or at least, by a significant and distant age in the future). Setting lifetime goals gives you the overall perspective that shapes all other aspects of your decision making."

Number 3: "Education - Is there any knowledge you want to acquire in particular? What information and skills will you need to have in order to achieve other goals?"

I would like to complete my undergraduate schooling and finally get my bachelor's degree.  I'm almost to the point where I'm about to say, "It doesn't matter what I get my degree in!' However, I'm still hopeful that I will find direction before too long.

Setting Lifetime Goals Part 2

Posted on June 2, 2011 at 2:10 AM Comments comments (0)

from mindtools...

"The first step in setting personal goals is to consider what you want to achieve in your lifetime (or at least, by a significant and distant age in the future). Setting lifetime goals gives you the overall perspective that shapes all other aspects of your decision making."

Number 2: "Financial - How much do you want to earn, by what stage? How is this related to your career goals?"

Ideally, I would like to earn $100k a year. I would like to do this within the next 10 years.  This has everything to do with my career goals, if I could just determine and commit to what my career goals should be.

Setting Lifetime Goals Part 1

Posted on June 1, 2011 at 8:13 PM Comments comments (0)

From mindtools....

"The first step in setting personal goals is to consider what you want to achieve in your lifetime (or at least, by a significant and distant age in the future). Setting lifetime goals gives you the overall perspective that shapes all other aspects of your decision making."

This shall be the first of a nine part project to help me discover my lifetime goals. Here we go....

Number 1: "Career - What level do you want to reach in your career, or what do you want to achieve?"

Unfortunately, the answer to this,  "I do not know."  I have done such a variety of things and have given up on them (for whatever reason) that I don't know what else I could or should do. I hope through more soul searching and working on "emotional regulation" (as my career counselor calls it), I should be able to find my way.   Good thing is she says it's, "Do-able."  Hooray!!

The Power of 48 Minutes

Posted on May 30, 2011 at 11:44 PM Comments comments (0)

"There is real power in 48 minute focused work sessions. You focus on your goal and nothing else. Then you take a 12 minute break and start the process all over again. This simple 48 minute building block is the basis for your whole goal achievement system. You may find that one session a day is all you have time for. Maybe you have time for two or three. While working for 48 minutes straight may not always be possible, it is the preferred method.

The secret here is to work for 48 minutes and then take a 12 minute break."



I love living life. I am happy.

Posted on May 29, 2011 at 6:42 PM Comments comments (0)

This made me cry alittle...  Inspirational Video....

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Making Dreams Come True

Posted on May 21, 2011 at 6:55 PM Comments comments (0)

1. Don’t wait until the situation is perfect.

2. Don’t wait until other people agree with you.

3. Don’t wait until your skill is good.


1. Believe in your dream.

2. Visualize your dream.

3. Expect a hard way ahead.

4. Take one bite at a time.



5 Tips to Daily Motivation

Posted on May 21, 2011 at 1:32 AM Comments comments (0)

(1) Develop an Energy Plan

An energy plan involves sleeping well, eating healthily and exercising regularly.  Studies shows that people who get 8 hours of adequate sleep and maintain a healthy diet such as eating breakfast and drinking at least 8 glasses of water a day tend to be more alert and perform better.

(2) Setup Little Reminders on Your Goals & the Whys

What’s the burning desire that’s pulling you towards that goal? Write down your goal and all the reasons why you want to achieve it in a positive context on a piece of paper and put it in your shirt pocket, your handbag or wherever that’s convenient for you to whip it out for an instant motivation booster.

(3) Listen to Success Motivation Cassettes, MP3s or other Materials

This is one of my favourite: listening to success motivation cassettes, MP3 or reading books close to your heart to keep yourself uplifted.

(4) Connecting with Your Mastermind Group Regularly

Napoleon Hill first brought forth the concept of a Mastermind Group in his 1937 classic Think & Grow Rich. A mastermind group is simply one that is made up of 2 or more people having a common goal.

(5) Visualize Living Your Dream Everyday

One of the most satisfying and motivating experience is to imagine living your dreams everyday! Try this visualization exercise everyday:

a) Every night before you go to sleep, close your eyes and take few deep breaths to relax.

b) Build a picture in your mind. Imagine a typical day when you have achieved your dream.

As you repeat the exercise every night, start adding colours, sounds and smells to your “movie”. This visualization technique not only allows you to build intense confidence towards achieving your goal, it implants a positive impression onto your subconscious, tapping on its power to achieve wonders in your life!



Vision Board

Posted on May 21, 2011 at 1:26 AM Comments comments (0)

What’s a Vision Board?

A vision board is a just a collage of pictures cut out from magazines or other periodicals to help you visualize stuff associated with your goals

Basically, the idea is to construct a physical image of what you perceive life will be like if you’ve accomplished your goals and review this on a daily basis (or as many times as you think it’s necessary) intently. It’s not exactly the number of times you review it, but rather the emotions or feelings when performing this routine.

.... interesting, huh?



Talking to yourself

Posted on May 18, 2011 at 4:01 AM Comments comments (0)

"Talking to yourself as you would talk to your child, or someone else you love, works. You will get the job done -- faster and with less angst than you would if you had berated yourself. Although the words will sound strange at first, after a while, you may even begin to believe that all those nice things are true."

Maintaining Motivation with ADD

Posted on May 18, 2011 at 3:00 AM Comments comments (0)

Sometimes we lose sight of why things are important to us.


Taking the time to sit down and write a list why this goal is valuable to you will be worth the effort put into the exercise. Once you have done this, carry the list with you or post it in a place where you will read it often


When you can align your goals with who you are as a person and what you value in life, the steps to make your goals happen become clearer and the process involved becomes enriched. When it comes time to work, don't ask yourself what you need to do, ask yourself what you want to do.



(adapted from


Motivation to Get Work Done

Posted on May 18, 2011 at 2:29 AM Comments comments (0)

1. Break the task into smaller steps.


2. Use visual reminders to stay on task. Like a BIG NOTE on the TV!


3. Start off with easy assignments before tackling bigger projects. To keep my brain from getting punked by the difficult stuff, I do the easy things first. For example, do my dishes right now? Overwhelming. But instead of thinking, "Good lord, I cannot do this," I try to think, "OK, just the silverware" and then, "Since I already did that, maybe I'll do the glasses." I continue to make headway, until -- to my amazement -- all the dishes are done. ADDers are notoriously work-shy, and whatever gets us from A to B will get us, eventually, to C.


4. Surround yourself with productive, motivated role models.


5. Give yourself room for failure ... and room for multiple tries. There are no futile attempts! Even a small effort is worthwhile, since it sets in motion an attitude about progress and accomplishment.


6. Stay positive.