|Posted on August 8, 2011 at 6:55 PM||comments (0)|
"Love consists of Passion, Intimacy, and Commitment!"
|Posted on July 30, 2011 at 8:10 PM||comments (0)|
Well, well, well.... what do we have here?
The Crumbs Fix: Give up the crumbs and take a seat at the banquet table. First, break up with the guys that are only giving you crumbs. Then make a rule: I only date men who are (a) available and (b) crazy about me (for real). Try this on for size, even if it means spending time with guys who "aren't good enough" but who treat you like royalty. By the way, if you do this, the crumb-giver may come around! If he starts courting you, give him a chance. But don't jump right back in. Slowly let him prove to you that he is changing. Encourage him to go into therapy or work on himself to see if he can be more giving and the two of you can come together in a way that is fulfilling for both of you.
You need to learn about what it really means to be loved. Make an affirmation to the effect of, "I deserve respect, care and love." Post it where you can read it every day. Treat yourself with TLC. Practice asking for what you want, no matter how expensive or "inappropriate" or "bothersome" it is. Also, practice receiving and saying "Yes," when those things come to you. Because they will.
(from Dr. Diana Kirschner)
|Posted on June 20, 2011 at 8:22 PM||comments (0)|
|Posted on May 29, 2011 at 7:01 PM||comments (0)|
"I wanted to have a chance at life, to meet someone and have my own children that I could love and be proud of. I realized then that this would only happen if I stopped treating myself the same way my mother did.
If you’d like to treat yourself better than your parents did and open up to love, I recommend:
1) Write Through your Feelings and Fears
Try and pinpoint when and what makes you feel good or sad.
By putting everything on paper, you can then reference your emotions, look into your behavioral patterns, and recognize what made you feel a certain way and how you dealt with it
Keeping a journal keeps you connected to yourself so you can make real changes that last.
2) Risk Trusting Other People
Taking risks with people is essential for happiness. After all, it is better to have experienced at least some loving friendships than to sit alone, fearing heartache.
3) Let Go of the Old Stories
Once I realized that our unhealthy non-relationship wasn’t my fault, I was able to stop blaming her and hanging onto the victim story.
Once you stop telling the story, it has less power over you.
4) Love Yourself
By loving myself, I allow others to love me. I love myself because I am still here, and I can see my life changing around me. When I have moments of insecurity, I read through my journals, speak to friends, or throw myself into tasks I enjoy, like baking.