|Posted on July 27, 2011 at 5:48 PM||comments (0)|
"How do we raise children to be confident without being narcissistic? First, it is important to set clear rules for your children and don't budge on them. By saying no and meaning it, you are refusing to give your child the power in the relationship. Living with rules and boundaries teaches children they are not the center of the universe. Second, avoid sending messages that communicate a "win at all cost" mentality. Narcissistic college students admit to their inflated self-views, but justify them by stating that overconfidence is required to survive the modern highly-competitive world. Confidence is something we want to instill in our children, but overconfidence will set them up with unrealistic expectations and encourage them to be too risky in their decisions. Finally, we need to teach our children empathy and compassion for others. These are qualities we often talk about but rarely model for our children."
|Posted on June 2, 2011 at 11:55 AM||comments (0)|
"The first step in setting personal goals is to consider what you want to achieve in your lifetime (or at least, by a significant and distant age in the future). Setting lifetime goals gives you the overall perspective that shapes all other aspects of your decision making."
Number 4: "Family - Do you want to be a parent? If so, how are you going to be a good parent? How do you want to be seen by a partner or by members of your extended family?"
Well, I'm already a parent but I would like to have another child if possible. And "How are you going to be a good parent?" Wow, that question really stumped me. I guess don't think about it enough. It would appear I need to do more information gathering regarding this topic.
As far as how I want to be seen? Well, I want to be seen as a loving, supportive, and healthy parent: gently leading my child in the direction that he/she chooses, supporting his/her strenths and growth, and providing all the unconditonal love he/she wants...all the while still fostering a sense of personal empowerment and independence.
|Posted on May 15, 2011 at 5:56 AM||comments (0)|
Save the children... If you care about your children, you should read the following from medscape.com:
"For prevention of depression, therefore, Dr. Alloy advocates for a primary prevention approach. Children should be trained to make more benign interpretations of stressful life events. In order to teach this approach to children, parents can be trained to model and provide positive feedback when appropriate. She recommends a cognitive-behavioral approach for helping preadolescents develop their cognitive styles. Effective prevention programs include the Penn Optimism Project through the University of Pennsylvania, and the Coping with Stress Course .[20,21] These approaches can help children develop healthy cognitive styles. When faced with stress or other adverse events, children will be able to react with minimal if any negative cognitive style; this would, hopefully, reduce the incidence of depression. "