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"The function and duty of a quality human being is the sincere and honest development of one's potential."
~ Bruce Lee


You Become What You Pretend to Be

Posted on August 19, 2011 at 9:25 PM Comments comments (0)


The next time you're feeling depressed and want to feel happy and positive, try this.

Put a pen between your teeth in far enough so that it's stretching the edges of your mouth back without feeling uncomfortable. This will force a smile. Hold it there for five minutes or so. You'll find yourself inexplicably in a happy mood. Then try walking with long strides and looking straight ahead. You will amaze yourself at how fast your facial expressions can change your emotions."


How to Stay Grounded in Challenging Times

Posted on June 25, 2011 at 8:21 AM Comments comments (0)

"Grounding is the kinesthetic sense of being fully present in our body and our environment, moment by moment. It’s the continual flow and integration of sensory, emotional and mental stimuli. Like a sturdy tree, we bend and sway in a storm, but we’re rooted in our core.

A lack of grounding comes from an imbalance in our energy and our body. We feel uneasy, confused, unsettled.  Unless it’s corrected, insufficient grounding can make us accident-prone.  It can also escalate and cause physical and mental problems.

Here are nine immediate ways to improve grounding.

1. Feel and accept all your emotions; they’re valuable messages from your soul. The positive, joyful emotions tell us we’re doing great. The painful ones tell us we’re out of balance, some situation needs improving, and the painful emotion needs transforming. If it’s not transformed, and it persists, that emotion will embed itself in our body, causing malfunction and eventually, disease.

There are Six Healing Sounds that dramatically transform painful emotions.  Here’s how to do one of them, which is called the Relaxation or Sleep Sound. Lie down. Close your eyes and inhale deeply through your nose, inflating your abdomen, which also inflates your chest.  Slowly exhale as you say the sound HEEEEE, deflating your chest, then your abdomen, and then, sending the sound down your whole body, into the earth.  Rest and breathe naturally; your temperature will even out. Repeat the whole procedure until relaxed or, if you wish, until you fall asleep.

2. Eat three nutritious, organic meals daily, with green vegetables, some raw foods, some fermented foods. Eat foods with a variety of beautiful colors and delicious tastes. Give thanks for each meal, chew thoroughly, and mix each mouthful with saliva.  Carefully shopping for and preparing your own food will improve both your grounding and your nutrition.

3. Emphasize earth element foods: beans and whole grains (pre-soaked overnight; soak water discarded), yellow and orange foods, foods grown in the ground.

4. Avoid addictive stimulants: coffee, chocolate, alcoholic drinks.  Avoid cane sugar;  substitute a little organic raw honey or 100% maple syrup.

5. Soak your feet in warm water.  Massage them vigorously with oil or lotion, especially the toes and kidney point, which is located between the two balls of the foot.

6. If you meditate, do not leave energy in your head or heart.  End every kind of meditation with this safe method of energy collection:  Place the tip of your tongue on the roof of your mouth. With both palms together, rub your abdomen in circles. Women, circle counter-clockwise (when looking down at abdomen) for 36 times; then clockwise for 24 times. Men, circle clockwise 36 times; then counter-clockwise 24 times. Repeat if you’re still feeling spacey.

7. Slow down – get in touch with your own natural rhythms in your spiritual practice and in daily life.  Pushing yourself to receive a higher energy than your body is ready to assimilate can cause severe runaway energy.  This is especially true of doing spiritual sexual practices without first clearing emotions and balancing the body.

8. Exercise moderately, daily. Walk in nature. As you walk, connect to the earth with every step: roll each foot from heel, to side, to balls, to toes.

9. Grow a garden or plants. Adopt a pet. Use your unique gifts to help kids, seniors or animals in need. Some meditation methods create an ungrounded energy imbalance by cultivating universal or heaven energy, and ignoring or negating body and earth energies. The fundamental safeguard of the Universal Healing Tao System is that our practices are always grounded in our bodies, and connected to the earth.

At every level, we exercise moderately, transform our painful emotions, circulate our chi (life force energy) to balance yin and yang, and store chi in our navel area, as in #6 above.

Earlier, we mentioned that being continually ungrounded can lead to physical and mental difficulties.  It can make us accident-prone.  It can escalate into uncontrolled, runaway energy (sometimes called “kundalini syndrome”;), that causes occasional headaches, dizziness, disorientation, or mild heat sensations in the spine or heart.

More severe runaway energy shows up as very hot or very cold energy rushing up the spine, heat or pressure in the head, fainting, localized pain, frequent insomnia, or frequent diarrhea or constipation.  The most extreme forms of runaway energy cause an inability to function at all, or as mental illness.

Of course, if you have these severe or extreme symptoms, have them checked medically, to rule out physical or emotional disorders.  Note that chi kung literature and the experiences of our students report that western medications do not heal severe runaway energy. We advise you to contact a Universal Healing Tao Certified Instructor, or other skilled spiritual teacher or counselor, who has successfully worked with healing runaway energy."



Setting Lifetime Goals Part 6

Posted on June 2, 2011 at 10:32 PM Comments comments (0)

from mindtools...

"The first step in setting personal goals is to consider what you want to achieve in your lifetime (or at least, by a significant and distant age in the future). Setting lifetime goals gives you the overall perspective that shapes all other aspects of your decision making."

Number 6:  "Attitude - Is any part of your mindset holding you back? Is there any part of the way that you behave that upsets you? (If so, set a goal to improve your behavior or find a solution to the problem.)"

Obviously my bouts of depression hold me back: my "emotional instability", my anxiety, and my habit of procrastination.  I am obviously working on these things, but I could benefit from a more structured plan to improve on these areas of my persona.

Depression Relapse Prevention

Posted on May 15, 2011 at 6:18 AM Comments comments (0)

Well I'll be darn:

"Depression is recurring and cyclic. What we have is treatments, not cures. You’re never really free of it; you are always living in the shadow of it. You always have to be prepared for a recurrence and be ready to stave it off."

Andrew Solomon, author of The Noonday Demon

With that in mind, this is probably a good idea - Creating a Personalized Relapse Prevention Plan (found towards the bottom of the page.)  I'll have to work on my personal one and post it on my own Depression page when finished.

Depression Prevention for Your Kids

Posted on May 15, 2011 at 5:56 AM Comments comments (0)

Save the children...  If you care about your children, you should read the following from

"For prevention of depression, therefore, Dr. Alloy advocates for a primary prevention approach. Children should be trained to make more benign interpretations of stressful life events. In order to teach this approach to children, parents can be trained to model and provide positive feedback when appropriate. She recommends a cognitive-behavioral approach for helping preadolescents develop their cognitive styles. Effective prevention programs include the Penn Optimism Project through the University of Pennsylvania,[19] and the Coping with Stress Course .[20,21] These approaches can help children develop healthy cognitive styles. When faced with stress or other adverse events, children will be able to react with minimal if any negative cognitive style; this would, hopefully, reduce the incidence of depression. "

Depression and AHDH Tip

Posted on May 13, 2011 at 9:26 AM Comments comments (0)

Oh crappers, what if you have BOTH depression and ADHD?  Hehehe.....


"Establish routines. Lack of motivation is a complication of depression. Poor organization and an inability to meet your goals can occur with ADHD. Thus, it is important to develop structure and routines to counteract these symptoms. Schedule your day and your week. Follow the schedule and stay on task. Increase your awareness by watching the clock and noting how long it takes you to complete something. If you feel yourself getting off task, or your feel unmotivated to follow your routines, establish personal consequences"



WTF, SSRI cause Apathy/ADHD?

Posted on May 12, 2011 at 5:34 PM Comments comments (0)

What the hell? Some chick asked this question on Yahoo Answers:

"Can adults develop ADHD as a result of taking an SSRI?"

And one of the answer is YES!

Damn! No wonder I'm all like, "I don't really give a f*ck so maybe tomorrow" and often wonder if I'm ADHD. Listen to this quote from the gov publications 1 and 2:

"Apathy has a significant negative impact on the quality of life. It can be a part of other axis I and axis III disorders such as depression. It has also been reported as a treatment emergent side effect of SSRI drugs"


"Since the mesolimbic DA system plays an important role in motivation and reward, a potential decrease in the firing of DA neurons may lead, in some patients, to a lack of adequate response to SSRIs."

Yeah, staying alive on SSRI is better than the alternative, but since I'm past that stage...should I continue my dosage? Time to ask my doct.