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10 Facts about the Human Brain

Posted on April 21, 2013 at 1:00 AM Comments comments (0)

  HERE ARE 10 MIND BOGGLING FACTS ABOUT HUMAN BRAIN!!

 

1)  Nerve impulses to and from the brain travel as fast as 170 miles per hour. Ever wonder how you can react so fast to things around you or why that stubbed toe hurts right away? It’s due to the super-speedy movement of nerve impulses from your brain to the rest of your body and vice versa, bringing reactions at the speed of a high powered luxury sports car.


2) The brain operates on the same amount of power as 10-watt light bulb. The cartoon image of a light bulb over your head when a great thought occurs isn’t too far off the mark. Your brain generates as much energy as a small light bulb even when you’re sleeping.


3) The human brain cell can hold 5 times as much information as the Encyclopedia Britannica. Or any other encyclopedia for that matter. Scientists have yet to settle on a definitive amount, but the storage capacity of the brain in electronic terms is thought to be between 3 or even 1,000 terabytes. The National Archives of Britain, containing over 900 years of history, only takes up 70 terabytes, making your brain’s memory power pretty darn impressive.


4) Your brain uses 20% of the oxygen that enters your bloodstream.The brain only makes up about 2% of our body mass, yet consumes more oxygen than any other organ in the body, making it extremely susceptible to damage related to oxygen deprivation. So breathe deep to keep your brain happy and swimming in oxygenated cells.


5) The brain is much more active at night than during the day.Logically, you would think that all the moving around, complicated calculations and tasks and general interaction we do on a daily basis during our working hours would take a lot more brain power than, say, lying in bed. Turns out, the opposite is true. When you turn off your brain turns on. Scientists don’t yet know why this is but you can thank the hard work of your brain while you sleep for all those pleasant dreams.


6) Scientists say the higher your I.Q. the more you dream. While this may be true, don’t take it as a sign you’re mentally lacking if you can’t recall your dreams. Most of us don’t remember many of our dreams and the average length of most dreams is only 2-3 seconds–barely long enough to register.


7) Neurons continue to grow throughout human life. For years scientists and doctors thought that brain and neural tissue couldn’t grow or regenerate. While it doesn’t act in the same manner as tissues in many other parts of the body, neurons can and do grow throughout your life, adding a whole new dimension to the study of the brain and the illnesses that affect it.


8 ) Information travels at different speeds within different types of neurons. Not all neurons are the same. There are a few different types within the body and transmission along these different kinds can be as slow as 0.5 meters/sec or as fast as 120 meters/sec.


9) The brain itself cannot feel pain. While the brain might be the pain center when you cut your finger or burn yourself, the brain itself does not have pain receptors and cannot feel pain. That doesn’t mean your head can’t hurt. The brain is surrounded by loads of tissues, nerves and blood vessels that are plenty receptive to pain and can give you a pounding headache.


10) 80% of the brain is water. Your brain isn’t the firm, gray mass you’ve seen on TV. Living brain tissue is a squishy, pink and jelly-like organ thanks to the loads of blood and high water content of the tissue. So the next time you’re feeling dehydrated get a drink to keep your brain hydrated."


from unbelievable-facts.com

 

Latest News on Brain Science

Posted on April 28, 2012 at 11:55 PM Comments comments (0)

As one of my loves, neuroscience gives hopes for a better future to the mental and emotional condition of people.  Here are excerpts to the latest findings and reports in this exciting field:


As of 04/28/2012

...from Yahoo News (http://news.yahoo.com/blogs/trending-now/y-big-story-brain-tells-us-000534638.html)

What the brain tells us

 

Where your emotions originate in your brain. How about pinpointing in your noggin where your feelings and actions arise? "The Emotional Life of Your Brain," published in March, takes the lessons learned in affective neuroscience and correlates six emotional styles with brain activity.

 

  • resilience (capacity to recover from adversity)—prefrontal cortex, amygdala
  • outlook (glass half empty or half full)—ventral striatum
  • sensitivity to context (what situation are they operating in, and do they adapt)—hippocampus
  • sensitivity to social cues (facial expressions, tones of voice)—amygdala, fusiform
  • sensitivity to internal bodily cues (how one feels, self-awareness)—visceral organs
  • attention (scattered, focus)—prefrontal cortex

 

..Yes, you can rewire your brain. Lucky for us, Davidson says, "Neuroplasticity, the brain's ability to reorganize, is the organ of change." Both the Forbes interview and his book give tips on pumping up where you might be lacking...."


What does all this possibly mean?  Imagine a future where you can "grow" certain parts of your brain like you would specific body muscles; or one where accidental or developmental brain damage can be reverse or "fixed". 


Here is the PDF copy of the article in case the yahoo link should change in the future.

Another Career Personality Result

Posted on November 7, 2011 at 1:50 PM Comments comments (0)

from careerfitter.com


You love thinking about concepts and theories, and value knowledge and competence above all else. You apply very high standards to all that you do, and you best understand things by analyzing underlying principles and structures. You enjoy working independently. Most of the time you are caught up in your deep thought life, and as a result, others may perceive you as disconnected. You are a well spring of creative ideas, and you are probably most energized when you are acquiring knowledge and learning to master new skills. You have an extremely high level of concentration, and are good at using your future oriented thinking to see the implications and benefits of implementing your ideas.

Career Decision Test

Posted on October 10, 2011 at 12:20 AM Comments comments (0)

from careerchoiceguide.com


 

Are you trying to make a career decision and feeling stuck? Try this career decision test.

If you're the kind of person who likes to make pro and con lists as a way of making decisions, you'll like using this decisional balance worksheet.

The decisional balance, originally conceptualized by Janis and Mann, is like a pro and con list, only much more thorough. It's helpful in providing career decision guidance, because it causes you to systematically consider all sides of a decision. When you work through a decisional balance, you'll think through the benefits and costs of pursuing a specific choice, and you'll also think through the benefits and costs of not pursuing specific choice.

The decisional balance is an effective career decision test that can help you to see the consequences of choosing an option, and also the consequences of not choosing that option.

It's very easy to use a decisional balance. Just follow these simple steps:

 

Create a grid like the one below.

Above the grid, write down the choice or decision you are trying to make.

Example: Accept a new job offer.

In the box at the top left corner, write down all of the benefits of choosing the option you are considering.

Example: Write down all of the ways you'd benefit from accepting the new job

In the top right corner, write down all of the costs, or negatives connected with choosing the option.

Example: Write down all of the negatives associated with accepting the new job.

In the box at the bottom left, write down all of the benefits of not choosing the option in question

Example: Write down all of the benefits of not accepting the new job.

In the box at the bottom right, write down all of the costs, or negatives connected with not choosing the option

Example: Write down all of the negative connected with not accepting the new job.

 

Putting all of those benefits and costs in writing on a decisional balance acts as a career decision test to help you think through a choice from all angles. Having all of that information organized on paper can be a huge help when you're trying to make career decisions.A decisional balance chart can also be very helpful to keep you motivated through the challenges of accomplishing whatever goal or course of action you've chosen. If you're working towards accomplishing a challenging goal, keep your decisional balance chart on hand even after you've made the decision. When you feel tempted to abandon your choice, take a look at your decisional balance. It will remind of all of the benefits of continuing to pursue the option you chose and all of the costs of abandoning your choice.


The Ten Happiest Jobs

Posted on October 10, 2011 at 12:10 AM Comments comments (0)

from forbes.com


In my article on the Ten Most Hated Jobs, there were some surprises. There are also some surprises in the ten happiest jobs, as reported a General Social Survey by the National Organization for Research at the University of Chicago. (I am indebted to Lew Perelman for drawing my attention to the Christian Science Monitor article.)


1.  Clergy:  The least worldly are reported to be the happiest of all


2. Firefighters: Eighty percent of firefighters are “very satisfied” with their jobs, which involve helping people.


3. Physical therapists: Social interaction and helping people apparently make this job one of the happiest.


4. Authors: For most authors, the pay is ridiculously low or non-existent, but the autonomy of writing down the contents of your own mind apparently leads to happiness.


5.  Special education teachers: If you don’t care about money, a job as special education teacher might be a happy profession. The annual salary averages just under $50,000.


6. Teachers: Teachers in general report being happy with their jobs, despite the current issues with education funding and classroom conditions. The profession continues to attract young idealists, although fifty percent of new teachers are gone within five years.


7. Artists: Sculptors and painters report high job satisfaction, despite the great difficulty in making a living from it.


8. Psychologists: Psychologists may or may not be able to solve other people’s problems, but it seems that they have managed to solve their own.


9. Financial services sales agents: Sixty-five percent of financial services sales agents are reported to be happy with their jobs. That could be because some of them are clearing more than $90,000 dollars a year on average for a 40-hour work week in a comfortable office environment.


10. Operating engineers: Playing with giant toys like bulldozers, front-end loaders, backhoes, scrapers, motor graders, shovels, derricks, large pumps, and air compressors can be fun.  With more jobs for operating engineers than qualified applicants, operating engineers report being happy.


It’s interesting to compare these jobs with the list of the ten most hated jobs, which were generally much better paying and have higher social status. What’s striking about the list is that these relatively high level people are imprisoned in hierarchical bureaucracies. They see little point in what they are doing. The organizations they work for don’t know where they are going, and as a result, neither do these people.

1. Director of Information Technology

 

2. Director of Sales and Marketing

3. Product Manager

4. Senior Web Developer

5. Technical Specialist

6. Electronics Technician

7. Law Clerk

8. Technical Support Analyst

9. CNC Machinist

10. Marketing Manager


The meaningfulness of livesWhy were these jobs with better pay and higher social status less likely to produce happiness? Todd May writing in the New York Times argues that “A meaningful life must, in some sense then, feel worthwhile.  The person living the life must be engaged by it.  A life of commitment to causes that are generally defined as worthy — like feeding and clothing the poor or ministering to the ill — but that do not move the person participating in them will lack meaningfulness in this sense. However, for a life to be meaningful, it must also be worthwhile. Engagement in a life of tiddlywinks does not rise to the level of a meaningful life, no matter how gripped one might be by the game.”


This is what underlies the difference between the happiest jobs and the most hated jobs. One set of jobs feels worthwhile, while in the other jobs, people can’t see the point. The problems in the most hated jobs can’t be solved by job redesign or clearer career paths. Instead the organizations must undertake fundamental change to manage themselves in a radically different way with a focus on delighting the customer through continuous innovation and all the consequent changes that are needed to accomplish that. The result of doing this in firms like Amazon, Apple and Salesforce.com is happy customers, soaring profits and workers who can see meaning in their work.

 


You Become What You Pretend to Be

Posted on August 19, 2011 at 9:25 PM Comments comments (0)

 

The next time you're feeling depressed and want to feel happy and positive, try this.

Put a pen between your teeth in far enough so that it's stretching the edges of your mouth back without feeling uncomfortable. This will force a smile. Hold it there for five minutes or so. You'll find yourself inexplicably in a happy mood. Then try walking with long strides and looking straight ahead. You will amaze yourself at how fast your facial expressions can change your emotions."


(from psychologytoday.com)

Heorine

Posted on August 19, 2011 at 2:10 PM Comments comments (0)


My Cute Big Nose and Slanted Eyes

Posted on August 19, 2011 at 2:00 PM Comments comments (0)

On my on-line journeys, I came across this wonderful little blog called, "All American Indian Girl."  I was drawn to one of her posts about self-image, "My big beautiful punjabi nose."  Here is my response:



When I was younger I had terrible self-image problems; however, over the years I have learned that being "perfect" is not necessary.  I know this sounds cliche, but it really is who you are.

 


Heck, my big nose lets me breath deeper (I once read about someone who had to undergo surgery because her nostrils were so small it impeded her breathing.) It helps identify my heritage (I am my mother's daughter and my grandfather's grandchild, and so forth).  

 


And, my uncreased eyes are still bright and focused. My uncreased eyelids curl my eye lashes upward where as my girl friends would have to depend on eye lash curlers.  It gives a "doe-y" slightly slanted look that I don't mind at all.... Dab on a little eyeliner. Voila!

 


I don't know if little Lee Min will be saved from having to go through self-image problems with her surgery or if this is just the beginning to a life-time of exterior perfection seeking... only time will tell.

 


Personally, I don't see myself as anything but me; although from the looks of me, you would identify me as southeast Asian.  I am just the sum of my parts: my physical, my emotional, my psychological. I am me.


 

-Nia

 

 


Found $20 Bucks?

Posted on August 11, 2011 at 5:25 PM Comments comments (0)

(from bankrate.com)


What to do with that $20 bucks you found? Here are my top 2 faves:


  Buy a book on budgeting and money management

(gawd, I have a huge list of those to choose from) and apply as follows:


-Track household income and spending for at least three months.


-After that, choose one or two spending categories and reduce your expenses by 20 percent to 30 percent per month.


-Put the money you saved in a bank account or IRA

-Reward yourself after you've saved $100 by taking $20 for "a special splurge -- lunch out, a night at the movies, etc."




Check your "S.W.A.N." factor.



 

"The acronym stands for whatever helps you "sleep well at night," says Mark, who picked up the concept from late Atlanta radio money reporter Mike Kavanagh, CFP.


 

So figure out what fuels your SWAN factor. If it's paying down your debt, then throw that money at one of the bills. If it's building an emergency fund, stash it there.


Look at what you can start with it, too, Mark says. While $20 alone "is not going to solve any major financial problems," $20 each week is $1,000 per year -- "and it's suddenly very significant."

Love...

Posted on August 8, 2011 at 6:55 PM Comments comments (0)



"Love consists of Passion, Intimacy, and Commitment!"   

~ from John R. Buri, Ph.D.'s article Hunting for the Elusive Love Snipe

Focus on 1 Item at Time

Posted on August 8, 2011 at 6:50 PM Comments comments (0)

(from Tara McGillicuddy's Newsletter 8/8/11)

 


My system to Focus on 1 Item at Time:

 


1 Stop and Take a Few Deep Breaths

 

2. Write Down the items I want or need to get done

 

3. Choose 1 Item to Focus on

 

4. Set a Timer for 5 Minutes

 

5. Work on the Item for 5 Minutes

 

6. Evaluate the my progress

 

7. Repeat Process

 

 

This works well for me. Depending on what I'm working on I may adjust my time block to 10 or 15 minutes. I usually start with a 5 minute block because I know my mind is able to focus that long. Evaluating my progress is VERY important and allows me to choose how much more time I want or need to focus on an item. It also allows me to choose to move on to a different item."  



 

Fish for Brain Happiness

Posted on August 7, 2011 at 9:30 PM Comments comments (0)

Eating fish once per week cuts the risk of Alzheimer's by 60%."

~ Steve Gillman's newsletter 8/7/2011



"One American study found a 60% reduction in risk of Alzheimer’s disease in people who ate oily fish at least once a week. Fish oils may help to prevent furring or hardening of the arteries and high blood pressure which can raise dementia risk." ~ Goodforyourbrain.org




Red Sonja

Posted on August 5, 2011 at 6:10 AM Comments comments (0)


Be Yourself

Posted on August 3, 2011 at 7:01 PM Comments comments (0)


Tips for Developing Your Self Esteem and Positive Thinking

Posted on August 3, 2011 at 12:25 AM Comments comments (0)

(from positive-thinking-for-you.com)


• Don’t take other peoples criticism to heart, instead listen to what they are saying and learn from it.


• Take some time out for yourself everyday, meditate, look inside yourself and realize all your good points and imagine changing your bad ones into more positive.


• Celebrate and pride yourself on even the smallest achievements that you accomplish.


• Do something everyday that you enjoy, such as talking a walk in the sunshine or soaking in a bubble bath.


• Never deprive yourself of something you enjoy.  If you know you shouldn’t be doing it, then do it anyway and stop chastising yourself about it.


• Talk positively to yourself, repeat affirmations to chase away all of the negative thoughts and feelings and to bring positive thinking into your life.

 

Simple Self Esteem

Posted on August 2, 2011 at 11:57 PM Comments comments (0)

(from how-to-study.com)


"What can you do to build your self-esteem?  Here are some ideas.




- Be positive about yourself. It's much better to give yourself compliments than to put yourself down.


- Think of all the things you are good at and all your successes. Write these down and keep adding to the list. Read the list every day.


- Stop comparing yourself with other students. Your comparison should be with yourself. Are you better today than you were yesterday?


- Associate with students who like, respect, and support you. Try to avoid students who are always looking to find fault with you.


- Get involved in activities you enjoy. You will likely be successful in these activities.


- Make use of your special talents and abilities. These are your strengths.


- Take good care of yourself. You will feel better about yourself if you are healthy and well rested.


- Attack what you think are your weaknesses. Prove to yourself that "you can do it.


- "Help others. You will really feel good about yourself when you do.


- Keep looking for ways to improve yourself. As the old saying goes, "Reach for the moon. Even if you miss, you'll land among stars."


The higher your self-esteem, the higher will be your achievement.

 

Self Esteem

Posted on August 2, 2011 at 11:42 PM Comments comments (0)

"The key to improving your self-esteem is to take conscious control of your self-talk. Negative self-talk is the prime cause for creating and maintaining negative self esteem. The things you say to yourself in your mind, as well as the meaning you attribute to events in your life, combine to create the reality you end up live[ing].




One excellent way to combat and overcome negative self-talk is through using positive affirmations. The principle behind them is that the brain cannot entertain two contradictory notions at the same time. Eventually one of the two contradictory notions must win out and cause the other to collapse completely. The belief that finally wins out is the one that you invest with the most emotional energy and constancy of thought.


Affirmations such as:

"I like myself"

"I am a positive person and I create a positive life"

"I am a wonderful person of immense value who deserves to be loved"

 


Create a series of affirmations like this and resolve to use them throughout the day. You can write one or more of them out ten, twenty or more times a day. You should also take every opportunity to say them out loud to yourself. Always do so with enthusiasm and gusto; really feeling the positive emotions surging through your body. This is the true key to making affirmations work in improving self esteem. Putting all your emotional energy behind them gives the affirmations the power to destroy negative self-talk and low self esteem."


(from selfgrowth.com)

Anger Management Tools For ADHD Adults

Posted on August 2, 2011 at 10:19 PM Comments comments (0)

(from additudemag.com)



The Relaxed Response


Technique1. Stop and breathe.


We are not always aware that we hold our breath when we encounter stress, so at the very beginning of a stressful situation, be certain that you continue breathing without interruption.


Breathe smoothly, deeply and evenly at the very first trigger. Breathe deep from the diaphragm, if you can, making sure to exhale completely.


2. Smile and throw your shoulders back.


A smile increases blood flow to the brain and transmits nerve impulses from the facial muscles to the limbic system, a key emotional center of the brain.


Smiling changes your emotional state favorably, by stimulating the release of certain neurotransmitters. Sit up, or stand up straight, as you smile, balancing your posture by lifting up your head and chin. Relax your jaw and shoulders. Pretend that your spine has a thread running through it and out the top of your head and that someone is gently tugging on it to pull you up straight. Smile and let yourself you feel happy and light, as your body relaxes.


3. Make a wave of relaxation spread over your body.


Create a "wave of relaxation" through your body as if you're standing in the ocean. If the image of water is uncomfortable for you, make an image of a warm breeze blowing over you. Have the wave or breeze wash or blow away all unnecessary tension. Keep your mind and body calm. Feel centered and in control.


4. Take control of the situation.


Take control of the situation by accepting it as it is. Avoid the paralysis of analysis. Don't start to fret with useless questions like, "Why is this happening to me?"


Ask yourself, "What can I do right now that will make this situation better?" Quickly look for solutions instead of getting locked on the problem. Focus on what you can control, instead of what you can't.


Choose to learn from the experience. Listen with an open mind, trying to resolve conflict, rather than create it. Apply your own personal golden rule or spiritual philosophy in place of anxiety or anger. Think clear honest thoughts and protect yourself without hurting other people.


Response TechniquesTo Criticism


Responding to criticism can be easy to do, when you learn to do so, assertively with out attacking or surrendering to the criticism. You may respond to accurate criticism appropriately by acknowledging the criticism with dignity, protecting yourself-esteem. Inaccurate criticism can be responded to by "fogging", a gentle technique that protects you and doesn't attack the critic. Vague or over-generalized criticism can be responded to with an appropriate technique of questioning to clarify the issue.


The first step is to acknowledge the criticism and any truth there is to the statement. When the criticism is accurate, acknowledge so, by saying you're right and paraphrasing the criticism, so you both know what you are in agreement about. If a thank you or an explanation seems appropriate, then briefly do so and get on with other things. Don't dwell on the criticism, yet be determined about ways in which you can learn from it.


When you are given an inaccurate criticism, you can use "fogging" as a technique to respond. This involves a token agreement with the critic by agreeing only in part. Example: If someone says you are undependable you can respond by saying that you sometimes forget appointments. You are not agreeing that you are undependable and you are acknowledging that you do forget on occasion.


You can also agree about the possibility of the critic being right, by responding with,"Yes, I might be undependable at times." You could also agree just with the principle of the criticism by restating the principle behind the criticism, such as,"You're right, being late is undependable."


A lot of criticism is vague and needs to be clarified with questioning before you can decide how to respond. Stay away from why questioning and use how, what, where and when questioning to clarify the details. Example: If someone says that what you are doing annoys them, ask specifically how it is annoying and when it annoys.


Following are three effective ways to be assertive that will help you to stand your ground without provoking a anger or setting someone else up to respond defensively. Oftentimes ADDers have been criticized so much, they react angrily and aggressively or become passive to others actions toward them. Which ever response you have that you would like to modify, keep in mind that practice makes perfect and the first few attempts at responding differently may be awkward and not received as well as you hoped for, so hang in there and keep trying until you become comfortable and relaxed with your new options for responding.



Broken Record Response


Calmly and slowly keep repeating in a monotone voice without particular emphasis on any one word or phrase, what it is you have to say, until it is recognized and received appropriately by the other individual.


Emphatic Escalation

Calmly and slowly keep restating your response or request, with more assertion each time. Always remembering to be polite when asking and say please. Speak more firmly each time holing your ground, but not becoming aggressive.


Sensitive Listening

Respond being sensitive to the other persons point of view or plight, being sure to make your situation or point of view clear after you have acknowledged their point of view respectfully. Avoid using the word "but," replacing it with "and." Restating the other person's point of view, followed by the word 'but' negates what you have just said. Following it with the word 'and' will prevent the other person from becoming defensive or tuning you out.


Anger Assessment and Proactive Problem Solving


Identify your anger "triggers" and common situations in which they occur, so you can be prepared to respond differently. Be ready in this situations to take a deep breath, pause and respond in a calm and relaxed manner. Continue focusing on your breathing, relaxing your muscle tension and thinking pleasant and positive thoughts.


Identify negative thoughts and change them to appropriate positive sayings that you enjoy hearing yourself say. Self reminders such as "chill out" or "stay calm" are much easier to hear when we say them to ourselves before we hear them coming from someone else because we are beginning to behave angrily.


Think of the consequences that angry behavior will get you.


Think of the consequences that calm relaxed responses will get you!


Resolve to talk the incident over with a friend or coach later who can support and help you continue to respond in a way that will help you grow and become more satisfied with yourself.


If you are in a unbearable situation that you do not like, ask yourself, "What is the worst that could happen right now?" Chances are that the worst possible outcome won't happen, but you will be prepared for it, if it does.


Brainstorm positive solutions anger provoking situations and choose the best possible one to act upon. Decide a back up plan that is also positive and don't dwell on why the first one didn't work. Move on and learn from the experience.


Congratulate yourself each and every time you manage to change or modify a behavior that lessens your anger and gives you more options of responding in ways that are more appropriate for the fine person you are!


What Causes Sexual Addiction?

Posted on August 1, 2011 at 7:27 PM Comments comments (0)

(from psychcentral.com)

 

What Causes Sexual Addiction?

By Michael Herkov, Ph.D


Why some people, and not others, develop an addiction to sex is poorly understood. Possibly some biochemical abnormality or other brain changes increase risk. The fact that antidepressants and other psychotropic medications have proven effective in treating some people with sex addiction suggests that this might be the case.


Studies indicate that food, abused drugs and sexual interests share a common pathway within our brains’ survival and reward systems. This pathway leads into the area of the brain responsible for our higher thinking, rational thought and judgment.


The brain tells the sex addict that having illicit sex is good the same way it tells others that food is good when they are hungry. These brain changes translate into a sex addict’s preoccupation with sex and exclusion of other interests, compulsive sexual behavior despite negative consequences and failed attempts to limit or terminate sexual behavior.


This biochemical model helps explain why competent, intelligent, goal-directed people can be so easily sidetracked by drugs and sex. The idea that, on a daily basis, a successful mother or father, doctor or businessperson can drop everything to think about sex, scheme about sex, identify sexual opportunities and take advantage of them seems unbelievable. How can this be?


The addicted brain fools the body by producing intense biochemical rewards for this self-destructive behavior.


People addicted to sex get a sense of euphoria from it that seems to go beyond that reported by most people. The sexual experience is not about intimacy. Addicts use sexual activity to seek pleasure, avoid unpleasant feelings or respond to outside stressors, such as work difficulties or interpersonal problems. This is not unlike how an alcoholic uses alcohol. In both instances, any reward gained from the experience soon gives way to guilt, remorse and promises to change.


Research also has found that sex addicts often come from dysfunctional families and are more likely than non-sex addicts to have been abused. One study found that 82 percent of sex addicts reported being sexually abused as children. Sex addicts often describe their parents as rigid, distant and uncaring. These families, including the addicts themselves, are more likely to be substance abusers. One study found that 80 percent of recovering sex addicts report some type of addiction in their families of origin."


Career Test Result

Posted on July 31, 2011 at 6:10 AM Comments comments (0)

This description is a generalisation. If it rings true, you've found your career type.


You would most enjoy a career that allows you to meet new people. You would also be happiest in a career that allows you to be free and flexible, and allows you to be extremely creative. Some careers that would be perfect for you are: 




You are a great leader.


You genuinely enjoy being around other people. Your relationships with others are very important to you. You love talking and meeting new people.


You are very enthusiastic about work and about all that you do and have in your life. You love being the focus of attention. You enjoy a fast pace. You are very socially oriented. Therefore, you are much happier being with others than you are alone.


You crave interaction with others. You are very spontaneous and often act before you think. You are always quick to answer when you are asked a question, even if you aren't sure of the answer. It is easier for you to improvise as you go along.


You enjoy thinking out loud, and are most creative when brainstorming with friends or colleagues.


You enjoy being involved in many activities.  You are very easy to read, and often wear your heart on your sleeve. You are never afraid to tell people what you think. You are very empathetic and genuine. You can sometimes be seen as over-emotional or too involved by others. But that is only because you tend to get so involved in the things you do that they become personal.


You want to be adored, loved and appreciated. You like to please others and to make sure people are happy.  You trust your gut instincts.


You are easily inspired and trust that inspiration. You are very innovative. You analyse things by looking at the big picture.


You are concerned about how what you do affects others. You worry about your actions and the future. You tend to use a lot of metaphors and are very descriptive and colourful in your choice of language. 


You are very creative, and get bored easily if you don't get to express yourself. You like to learn new things. You don't like the same old routine. You like to leave your options open. "



(from ivillage.co.uk)


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